No Love

4 comments | February 4th, 2012

(story submitted anonymously, by a 19 yo Chestist) 

Love shows up later for some of us than it does others.  Those for whom it takes its sweet time, seem to feel they're missing something that they ought not be.  This reader does and here's her story:

I've never had a boyfriend. I'm turning 20 in February, and i feel that i haven't accomplished anything love wise. When i was younger i imagined my life way differently then what it has ended up to be, and now i feel i have no more time to day dream because i'm here, and it's now, and it's nothing…{end story}

Do you feel you've "accomplished anything love wise"?  How has falling in love, being in love – or not – changed how you look at the world?  And what about our writer…what words of advice can you offer her?  Is turning 20 without having had a boyfriend reason to panic and consider life empty?  Us, we think hell no, but share what you think here (and now).  XO, OOC


  • Naomi

    Posted on February 5, 2012

    I totally get that you would like to have had a boyfriend, but let me say that by the time I was 20 I had not been with anyone worth mentioning. They were idiots and so was I! Later, I knew who I was and what I wanted. I know this may not help, but it will get better. For realsies!

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  • Liza Tarance

    Posted on February 6, 2012

    Yes, 20 is a little later than a lot of people. Hare’s the thing though, when it and he comes you will think it came at the perfect time and he was the perfect one.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted on February 6, 2012

    My love life started like a car that hadn’t been serviced in decades. There were coughs and rattles and stall outs. This went on through my mid 20s when I found a guy who I dated for 3 years and was sure about half way through that that I would marry (I didn’t). Since then, I’ve opened myself up to whatever happens (and sometimes who ever happens by :)) and that would be my advice to you. Stay open, be ready, do not settle, and get ready for whatever happens. Love is glorious and love stinks, but love is always worth the ride. It will happen for you. It always does.

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  • Nan

    Posted on February 7, 2012

    What’s that song sing? You can’t hurry love, no, no.

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