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Hello, Mom?

8 comments | May 10th, 2012

(story submitted by A.L.C., a Chestist)

My mother's been dead for 2 years.  I was never very close with her and the truth is I didn't like or respect her very much.  I've always thought that being a parent was about having this unconditional love for your child for my mom it was all about whether or not we had unconditional love for her.  I guess I didn't.

That's why it was seriously strange when earlier today something really good happened and my first thought was "oh, I should call mom."  I don't know if it's because it's mother's day on Sunday or what, but not only is she dead, I didn't  talk with her very much when she was alive.  That instinct to pick up my phone and call her is kind of weirding me out.  Where did that come from?  {end story}

Obviously Sunday is all about celebrating, well, Mother's (yes, our insights know few bounds).  Not everyone has (or had) a mother you feel like celebrating though.  On a scale of 1-10, how do you think your mother did?  Anything you need to forgive and move past?  Let's #discuss.

8 comments

  • Laila

    Posted on May 11, 2012

    My father has always been my go-to parent. My mother’s intentions were always good but we just never connected the way my dad and I have. Often, I feel like my relationship with her is out of some sense of mutual obligation and not because either of us really want to have one.

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    • Nancy G.

      Posted on May 11, 2012

      It’s always been the same for me. My mother and I stay connected from an understanding that we SHOULD. My father and I stay connected from a want.

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      • OOC

        Posted on May 13, 2012

        Really good distinction, Nancy. Need v want. Can’t help but think we’re going to be looking at a lot of our relationships and put them in those 2 boxes to see what we have. XO, OOC

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    • OOC

      Posted on May 13, 2012

      Laila, is the obligation so much so that there’s no room for good in the relationship anymore?

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  • Anonymous

    Posted on May 11, 2012

    I’ve always been so close with my mother. She’s my best friend. Can not imagine it being otherwise.

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  • Reeve

    Posted on May 13, 2012

    You know, for the briefest of moments your mother was with you and present. Even if she’s gone and your relationship wasn’t very good when she was here, that is a nice thing. Maybe you can look at it that way?

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    • OOC

      Posted on May 13, 2012

      That’s a really good and fair point, Reeve. Even if just for a moment, there was forgiveness and forgetness. Thanks for sharing and joining the conversation.

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