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16 comments | September 1st, 2011

(story submitted anonymously, by a 34 year-old Chestist)

My Message: When ever I see stories about young women even girls wanting or getting breast enlargements thinking it will somehow improve their life, I think, why do they never talk to the women who grew up with large breasts. Their response might suprise them.

 

I round up my height to 5'2' and currently wear a 32 DD. I've been wearing a bra since the 3rd grade. As a young girl I was automatically considered a slut, because apprently if you have large breasts it must be true. So I tried to hide it with large shirts.  To this day I still feel uncomfortable wearing tight shirts. Not to mention it's not easy to find a reasonably priced bra that is a 32 DD. You can't just go into Target.

 

And chances are its not going to be "sexy" looking at least if your goal is to have them remain in your bra when you bend over to tie your shoe. Large breasts tend to prevent you from wearing certain clothes–button up shirts, no way; strapless, you'll do a lot of top pulling up; swim suits, find a specialty store and expect to pay about $200; sports bras, look forward to a vest type thing unless you don't mind bouncing everywhere; tight shirts that form what I call the guitar strings right between your chest. Oh and did i mention the back aches involved with large breasts?

 

If you think big breasts are the answer, check with a woman that came by them naturally, you may just find they would rather be flat chested. [end of story.]

 

One of the things we like most about this story is that, whether you agree or don't, whether you want big boobs, small boobs, no boobs and wonder why we're talking about boobs…it illustrates the idea at the heart of OOC…if you share your story, you can help change someone else's.  And that's cool.

 

So here's the question…have you ever been talked into or out of something by asking someone who knew?  What, why, who, how?  #discuss.  X
 

16 comments

  • MCS

    Posted on September 1, 2011

    For me, it’s a little different. I’m sure there have been moments that I’ve been talked into and out of things big and small, but the time this makes me think of is when I was in college.

    We all liked to do our share of partying and drugs. Come on, it was college. Classes were optional in our world, but getting high and crazy was a part of the required curriculum. One of my BFFs struggled with her weight, her happiness and her smoking (pot). She had all the money in the world and would buy all the pot in the world, only to smoke a little bit and flush the rest secretly. She was like a bulimic pot smoker.

    One night, she told us that she was checking herself into a drug rehab facility because of her “pot addiction”. I did everything I could that night not to get her to go. I was so worried that going into rehab would be a scarlet letter on the rest of her life (it was 20 years ago, things were different), and that she wasn’t as much an addict as someone without discipline (and pot wasn’t supposed to be addictive), and that if she wanted to stop she simply had to decide to stop.

    I cried, cajoled, yelled. All doing what I thought was right by her. She went anyway.

    20+ years later, and our families just spent a long weekend together, we’re still BFFs and she’s still smokes pot. She’s become really successful in her own right and sometimes we still talk about that night.

    I tried to talk her out of it for all the right reasons (in my head). In the end, I’m glad she went, because it never became a scarlet letter, and she got whatever she did out of it. It sure was a crazy night.

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  • Dina

    Posted on September 1, 2011

    I had my boobs done 3 years ago. I wish I had read this and met the author before hand.

    I like how they look and how I look, even though sometimes, I feel like I am wearing prosthetics and that they’re just not a part of me.

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  • Ask Me

    Posted on September 1, 2011

    I was 15, had pendulous, enormous breasts, couldn’t run, jump, play volleyball, got made fun of all the time. I had a breast reduction that summer and it was the best thing I’ve ever done for myself. I’m 23 now and so happy I did it.

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  • Bad Trip

    Posted on September 1, 2011

    A while ago some friends brought over some candy bars made with medical marijuana. I am a total lightweight and cannot handle drugs. I said I wasn’t interested, but they convinced me it would be fun, What a mistake!!! I totally lost it. I was paranoid and nauseous, and my heart was racing. From now on I will listen to myself and stick to my decisions! It sucked!!!

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    • Eva@OOC

      Posted on September 1, 2011

      We have all made some poor choices because our friends encouraged or pressured us. Good on you for learning from your mistake. We all need to trust ourselves in those type of situations. Thanks for sharing with us.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted on September 4, 2011

    I’m 19 and have A cup boobs. I hate them. I feel like less of a woman and undesirable to men. I have a boyfriend who loves me, and says he doesn’t care, but I can’t help but think he does. Men love boobs. I don’t know what I should do…

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    • OOC

      Posted on September 4, 2011

      Anonymous, we’d never tell anyone how to feel – nor how to look. We will say this though, some men like boobs. Some like them bigger some like them smaller. What matters most isn’t that some man like you – but that you like you.

      If that means changing your A cups to B, C, D or E cups…and if it’ll really and sustainably make you happier, we say do it. Importantly though, we’d also say it matters most that some guy (or some girl, whatever) likes you and is attracted to you for the whole package of who you are, not your bra size.

      We all (most of us, anyway) want to be and feel attractive. And not feeling that really blows. Some of us wish we were thinner, taller, heavier, blonder, browner, boobier, less booby…again, whatever. There’s a whole lot of dissatisfaction going on and it’s no fun at all.

      Sounds like you’ve got a BF who digs you just the way you are. That’s not nothing. As the author, says though, asks a woman who knows…there’s plenty on all sides of the discussion. Do, however, what feels right for you – for the long term and for the right reasons…however you define them. You be you, whatever that looks like. XX,

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    • Tati

      Posted on September 5, 2011

      I’m 19 and have B cups. I used to get teased by my larger sized friends and one thing i always noticed was that guys would only notice them for their size. They weren’t interested in them as a person. My ex-boyfriend loved boobs and he told me even though i didnt have large boobs, i still had fantastic ones because it’s always about quality, not quantity. My boyfriend now also feels the same way and we’re in a great relationship. Remember that men like confidence, so be proud of your body because your stuck with it for life anyways lol.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted on September 4, 2011

    Thanks so much. I guess I have a big decision to make. This site is fantastic :)

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    • OOC

      Posted on September 5, 2011

      Any time we change who we are through surgery, it’s a big one. Make it when you;re ready and for the right reasons – which will always be what you want not what you want someone else to want!

      And thanks for the nice words about the site. We’re trying. Let us know what else we can do…and, please, keep coming back. XO, OOC

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  • Anonymous

    Posted on September 5, 2011

    Thats really funny because im 5’2 and i wear 32 DD and i hate it. they hurt my back and its so hard going to bed at night i hate them but my boyfriend likes them lol!

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  • Anonymous

    Posted on September 6, 2011

    I have a set of 34DDD twins and I’ve always told myself that if I ever get rich, the first thing to go will be two of the Ds. I seriously just want to be able to buy a sports bra and be able to run without bashing my nose with one of my jugs.

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