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FU Thomas

2 comments | August 19th, 2012

boom

(by Elle, 19)

There are times when I want to tell Ol' Thomas the Tank Engine that he can take his "I think I can, I know I can" attitude and shove it.  FU Thomas, you try living my life.

I am tired and frustrated and trying to balance too many things between classes, working, and trying to have a social life.  I feel like I keep chugging up hill and and no matter how mamy times I say to myself "I think I can" something always falls through the cracks.

Why can't I win the lottery or something?  Then I wouldn't have to work and I could just focus on school and boys.  Isn't that what people my age are supposed to do, anyway?  {end story}

While we can't abide anger at Thomas, who are we to judge?  What we can relate to is feeling like the climb is long and steep and that you may need more stamina than you think you have.  You climbing any hills that seem steeper than you can imagine being able to get to the top of?

Happy HatingTry As I Might

6 comments | April 30th, 2012

Chestist typewriter 2

(story submitted by F, a Chestist)

Some days I feel like no matter what I do it's not good enough for anyone, myself especially.  (end story)

Short but relatable.  You ever feel like your efforts aren't adding up to what you want them to?

#lifestagesCan You Fail at Growing Up?

comment | January 31st, 2012

chestist enthralled

(story submitted by Casey, a 16 yo Chestist)

We talk a lot about expectations here @OOC.  They can motivate us and they can smack our happy around like nobody's business.  Here's Casey's story, and all we want to do is give her a big digital hug (so we are). 

I feel I'm not pretty enough, not skinny enough, not popular enough, not funny enough, not smart enough.

I guess everyone in high school feels like this, but I guess I thought on the edge of sixteen I'd have something going for me. Instead I feel like a failure. I remember being in kindergarten and dreaming about being sixteen. I remember thinking that I'd be beautiful, top of my class academically, popular, and everyone's best friend. When I was really young, I was a beautiful kid. I was told that on a regular basis. I even tried modeling. When I hit puberty, that changed. I wasn't perfect anymore - and I've never gotten over that.

When I was a little kid, I figured that I'd always be beautiful and popular like I was in kindergarten. I forgot to take ...

#lifestagesPlease Help.

6 comments | January 25th, 2012

Chestist grunge

(story submitted anonymously, by a Chestist)

This is real and this is serious.

I can't wait to get out of this purgatory. Resources, internal and external, have dwindled to their final drops. I start to wonder what poison to purchase when we've finally reached the end. {end story}

It's chilling, sad, scary, and maybe for some of us - relatable.  What comfort or counsel can you offer her?  Have you ever felt, for whatever reasons, that you were near the end of your ability to figure out what to do next?  Have you ever thought about "poison" as an escape from what's going and gone wrong?  How did you get past it or, are you still there?  The words we use so often "share your story and change hers" have rarely had higher stakes than now.

For those of you reading this that need immediate help please, please reach out for the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255), or www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org.  There is nothing you can't get through. Love, OOC

 

 

#lifestagesFailing Out

5 comments | December 24th, 2011

chestist sad

(story submitted anonymously, by a Chestist)

Just the thought of school is enough to make us run screaming into the night.  We didn't like it, and we didn't often do that well at it.  One of you wrote us with this and it seems she's having her struggles too:

I'm slowly failing out of school, little by little. My GPA is lowered enough that I'm going to lose my scholarship. My parents only tell me to get As and yell at me when I don't.

Getting a C is utter failure and getting an F is the most unthinkable thing. But I've gotten an F now.

The people in my real life never listen to me or ask why this happens, they just demand I do better. The only salvation I have is from internet friends who support and listen to me. {end story}

It's our opinion here @OOC HQ, that school's just not for everybody and that how well one does in school isn't necessarily a predictor of how well you're going to do out of school.  Don't get us wrong, we're all about education and learning how ...

Love & SexI Like This Guy

8 comments | December 9th, 2011

cloudy talk burst

(story submitted anonymously, by a Chestist)

Um, so, we can not relate to this at all, because, like, we are always wildly composed.  Always.  Ok...not so much.  Here's her story (it's short):

I like this guy, but whenever I'm around him, I either can't talk or I act like an idiot.  What the heck is wrong with me?? I hate this. {end story}

We dare you, dear Chestists, who amongst you can say they've not experienced being tongue tied, being a little (or a lot) off your game whether it's a boy or a girl or someone you like.  Or theiur parents.  Or your boss's boss's boss?  Why does that happen?  Why when we want to shine do we sometimes self-sabotage?  Let's talk about that...and share some stories.  We're betting at least a couple of them are funny.  And sad.  Ok...go.

 

Happy HatingJudge Me Not. Please.

3 comments | November 9th, 2011

black explosion chestist

(story submitted anonymously, by a Chestist)

Here's a short and sad tale, sent in by one of you, to which we can probably all relate:

My Message: sometimes i feel like i cant to anything right. that im so judged. ugh. {end story.}

Here @OOC HQ, we believe so strongly that feeling judged is a buzzkill without upside, that not jusdging anyone else's decisions, POV, thoughts is the one and only rule of the site.  Disagree passsionately, cool.  Judge?  not cool.

Our house rules aside, we've all felt judged at some point.  By others, by that little voice in our head...and sometimes we even do the judging.  So let's talk about it.  Is there a time in your life when you felt as our writer does?  So judged and like you couldn't do anything right?  Sucks.  How'd you get past it?  No judgments here.  XO

 

Happy MakingProfessional Difficulties, Overcome.

7 comments | November 8th, 2011

Mic

(story submitted by Goshawk, a 25 yo Chestist)

Work can sometimes be, well, work.  Whether it's office politics, finding the time to be great at what you do and still have a life, or dealing with career  challenges, it ain't always a bowl of cherries in and around the office.  Here's one reader's story:

I just worked through a really difficult time professionally - I failed a professional test. In my line of work, you only get to do that once before you're standing in front of a review board deciding if you're worth keeping.

As you can imagine, the upcoming training and re-test ate my life, and every day I seemed to have less and less confidence in my abilities. It was awful. I doubted my work ethic, my competence, my capabilities. I cried myself to sleep - I love this job and I can't think of anything I'd rather do with my life. The idea of failure was crushing, yet every day felt like it brought me closer to that finish.

But when it came to the re-test, as soon as I sat down to begin...I ...

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