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#lifestages6th Sense

7 comments | June 11th, 2012

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(story submitted by Elena K, a Chestist)

I remember when I was younger, growing up and still living at home, that I always had this sense that no matter what happened everything would work out for me.  It was like a quiet comfort and security that I'd be fine no mattr what did and din't happen.  Not invincibility, just security.  Even when things weren't good I just knew they would be eventually.

I'm 31 now and realize I've lost that feeling.  Life's worked out well for me so far but I've entered a period of uncertainty and have realized that the sense of well-being that had always been there isn't any more.  I don't know where or how or when I lost it, I'd just like it back.  {end story}

Any advice for Elena on getting her groove back?  Any of you have a similar sense that no matter what happens, everything is going to be just fine?  (we sure hope so.)

 

Love & SexLow Self-Esteem, No More.

7 comments | May 13th, 2012

Chestist Shares

(story submitted by Alicia, a 21 yo Chestist, on OOC rewind )

What we love about this is that it's 1 of you talking to and sharing with all of us. Nice, right?  Here's her story:

I've always been a person with low self-esteem and used to think nobody could love me with all my flaws and my negative view of life.

But now I've learned the lesson: you don't have to be perfect to love and be loved back.

I understand life is unique, and I'm the best me. There's no other you in the world, so play your best role. Now I'm with a boy that loves me for who I am and understands beauty is something relative. He thinks I'm beautiful and that I'll always be.

I hope this helps you. {end story}

We love this, and like Alicia, we hope it helps too.  And again, we also want to throw some love to Alicia for writing and caring enough about others to share what she's learned and learning.  That's cool.

 

#bodiesI Am

14 comments | March 8th, 2012

chestist threads

(story submitted anonymously, by a Chestist; posted originally in May and again now)

When we saw this from one of you, we smiled. BIG.  Here's her short (just 9 words) and wonderful story:

I love my body, just the way I am. [end of story.]

Her feeling good made us feel good.  So let's talk about feeling good.  Name one part of you (or as many as you want) that you LOVE (or like) just the way it is.  Could be a body part or your generosity, creativity, or fashion flair.  Whatever.  Us, we hope it's the whole of you, because we think you're awfully swell.  XO

#bodiesA Healthy Relationship With Self

13 comments | February 15th, 2012

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(story by Carre Otis, a Chestist and author of BeautyDisrupted)

When was the last time you honestly asked yourself, “How do I feel about me?” “How do I see myself?” Simple and obvious? Maybe not so much.

How we feel about ourselves and bodies affects much more than I think we realize. Our self image, confidence and feelings of self worth ricochet out through the universe — and certainly the universe of our daily lives and interactions. Our feelings impact other people, shaping their feelings about us as well as about themselves.

Do you feel happy? Confident? Beautiful? Centered in your place and mission in your workplace? At home? In relationship? With your children? With self and others?

Self-love is the battery that powers every other kind of love.

I believe many of us suffer the effects of living on an autopilot of low self esteem and negativity. We’re shut down, dismissing the very need to be in healthy dialogue with our inner selves.. The relationship with self must be nurtured first before we can expect to experience fulfilling and reciprocated relationships in other ...

#thecumulativeeffectYou’ll Feel As Good As What You Buy?

5 comments | December 19th, 2011

hermes

(story by OOC via SaulThisWeek.com)

At the height of the Holiday shopping season, we bring you this (no need to thank us).  Researchers at the University of Minnesota have determined we can make ourselves feel better by buying big-name brands.

The study in the Journal of Consumer Research (and reported at www.sciencedaily.com), showed that buying a "prestigious brand with an appealing personality such as Nike or Harley-Davidson, can improve your self-image, by rubbing off on the way you see yourself."  Here's how they conducted the research (and from the original article):

"They asked a group of women to carry a shopping bag --either a Victoria's Secret shopping bag or a plain one --for an hour while shopping at a mall. Then the women rated themselves on a list of personality traits.

The result? The shoppers who carried the Victoria's Secret bag perceived themselves as more feminine, glamorous and good-looking than those with the plain bag.

In a subsequent experiment, researchers found some people felt smarter when they carried a pen embossed with the logo from super-brainy MIT (Massachusetts Institute of Technology). And this was true even after some of the ...

#bodiesThe Self-Esteem Act is Dumb

26 comments | December 2nd, 2011

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(submitted by lailainthecity)

We're all about diversity of opinions here @ Camp OOC...even the ones we don't agree with.  Imagine!  That said, there's a lot in Laialinthecity's comments we do agree with.  The first paragraph pretty much entirely.  As for the rest, well, for us, not so much.  But you decide for you, and let us and Laila know what you think. Here's what she does:

The "Self-Esteem Act"? Why do we have to keep lowering the bar for everything, and making it law no less? When I see someone svelte walking down the street, I don't ask them if they're wearing Spanx. When I see someone with a smile that lights up the room, I don't ask them if they're caps. When I see someone with waist length full bodied curly hair, I don't ask if it's a lace-front wig. Because the truth about what they look like when they get up in the morning, doesn't belong to me, it belongs to them. There's plenty of artifice in world, it starts with lip gloss when you're a teenager. So what?

Nobody is perfect, that should be common sense, ...

#thecumulativeeffectGaga, Lisa Simpson and Self Esteem

8 comments | September 1st, 2011

homer

(story by OOC via the NY Daily News)

Was it our annoucement of The Self Esteem Act?  Could it have been?  No?  It must be our self esteem runs amok.

 

Us aside, Lady Gaga's just finished a guest spot of "The Simpsons", where she hits Springfield after learning that it's teeming with low self-esteem.  In the episode our Ladyness works to cheer up a dejected and low self-esteeming Lisa.

 

Switch places with the yellow paragon of virtue that is Lisa.  Who would you pick to come to your town, your house, and sing, dance and push your blues away?  Or just make you happier than you are now?

 

BTW,  Gaga's episode will appear in the spring and "The Simpsons" premieres Sept. 25.  Set your DVRs.

 

#bodiesAsk A Woman Who Knows

16 comments | September 1st, 2011

new chestist

(story submitted anonymously, by a 34 year-old Chestist)

My Message: When ever I see stories about young women even girls wanting or getting breast enlargements thinking it will somehow improve their life, I think, why do they never talk to the women who grew up with large breasts. Their response might suprise them.

 

I round up my height to 5'2' and currently wear a 32 DD. I've been wearing a bra since the 3rd grade. As a young girl I was automatically considered a slut, because apprently if you have large breasts it must be true. So I tried to hide it with large shirts.  To this day I still feel uncomfortable wearing tight shirts. Not to mention it's not easy to find a reasonably priced bra that is a 32 DD. You can't just go into Target.

 

And chances are its not going to be "sexy" looking at least if your goal is to have them remain in your bra when you bend over to tie your shoe. Large breasts tend to prevent you from wearing certain clothes--button up shirts, no way; strapless, you'll do a lot of ...

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