Happy HatingUnder the Influence

6 comments | May 3rd, 2012

WTF Burst

(story submitted anonymously, a Chestist)

Everything was going along fine, I was feeling good, until this one guy at work who's known to be a jerk asked me if I'd gained weight.

Forgetting the whole inappropriateness of the comment, what's been sticking with and annoying me is that since he said it a week or so ago, I think about it everytime I see myself in a morror or catch my reflection somewhere.  Yes, I've gained a little weight but I don't really care about that.  I'll take it off, put it back on, take it off, whatever.  What I care about is that some jerk's words stick with me.  What I wonder about is why I'm so influenced by the negative words of people I don't care about and yet ignore and am usually so un-influenced by the words and opinions of people I do care about.

Why's some idiot have more of a negative influence than some one I love has a positive one? {end story}

#lifestagesWork:Life Balance is a Myth

4 comments | April 5th, 2012

dude, wtf

(OOC via FastCompany)

Say what?  Work:Life Balance is a myth?!  Knock-us over with a feather.

That;s right, from the files of things we already know, "work-life balance is a myth."

According to the fastCompany story, this myth is "compels many of us to view an ideal life as a set of perfectly level scales. On the tray on one side is your personal life. On the other side is your work life. With heroic efforts, you can keep both trays exactly level. If one starts to tip too far, you make some kind of nifty move that balances them again.  In reality, that perfect balance almost never occurs, except for those rare, fleeting moments when the trays pass each other on the way up or down--and we’re too frazzled to appreciate that brief moment of self-actualization anyway."

We don't mean to be all cyncial but um, yea.  Live it, got it.  The article does continue to say that what we really want is control, and thatwe tend to confuse a want for control with a want for balance, and that makes sense.

What would you rather have ...

#lifestagesNot a Good Fit

7 comments | February 17th, 2012

Chestist typewriter 2

(story submitted anonymously, by a Chestist)

Have you ever wanted - or needed - a job and not gotten it?  She has, and it sucks:

I just got *another* email informing me that while I interviewed well and the hiring manager liked me, I am not a good fit for the position. I feel like I keep getting so close and then ... SLAM, nothing. {end story}

It can be so hard to keep plugging along, trying to find that next job, that new job, and getting close but not getting it.  Has this ever happened to you?  How'd you kep your spirits up when they keep getting smacked down?  Remember, if you share your story you can help change hers.  Go on...  

#lifestagesHappiness @Work

comment | December 21st, 2011


(story by OOC via The Source)

Research involving 9,000 people globally on what makes for happiness @ work found that those amongst us who are happiest with our jobs:

Stay twice as long in them Spend 2x the amount of time at work focused on what they are paid to do Take 10x less sick leave Are 2x more likly to think they're achieving their potential

Happiness obviosuly (and you can quote us on this) has big upside for the indivudla and the enterprise.  Imagine that.  The reserach (conducted by the iOpene er Institute), found there are 5 key elements to feeling happy with what we do and its subsequent impact on how well we do it:

1. Contribution.

2. Conviction.

3. Culture.

4. Commitment.

5. Confidence.

While you can read the whole article here, we're wondering on a scale of 1-10 (ten being in-love with your job)  how happy are you at work?  Is it you, the job, or are you lacking - or is the company lacking - in one of the 5 things listed above?

And finally, how much does how happy you are at work spill-over into how happy you are generally?  ...