Love & Sex




Love & SexNot Good Enough

1 response | October 3rd, 2012

chestist sad


my boyfriend just broke up with me..and I started laughing my ass off because for some insane reason I'd thought I was good enough for him. {end story}

Odds are (statistically speaking) most relationships don't last.  When yours end, do you think it's a reflection on you?  Why?

Love & SexSex and Happyness

7 comments | September 28th, 2012


(story by FMB, on repeat, via dailymaiil)











Want to get happier?  Get busy.  That's the implication of a study from the U.K. (they're so far ahead of us on so many things).  Check it:

"Making love boosts our happiness more than anything else."  Yup, according to this study of 45,000 iPhone users, having sex is the best way to help yourself feel good.

So, we've got 2 questions.  One, is this true for you?  And 2, what if the sex is only meh?  Let's #discuss.

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What I’d Tell Her

4 comments | August 26th, 2012

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(by anonymous)

This is what i would tell her if i could...

I wasn't trying to hurt you this was just what i was feeling, and i thought you should know since this is your new life. You really hurt me on a personal level, and i hate how you can always do that but i can't.

Nope i just can't do that to my best friend, I can't tell you that you're terrified of not having an image and hate the thought of not having a man in your life. No i can't tell you that you are basically the product everybody else's ideas. I would never tell you that because i would never want to hurt you i always circle those thoughts, but would never say them because i love you and i don't want you to have another "call for help".

I am someone. you really pissed me off yesterday but most of all you hurt me so fucking much I hate you for that right now. I've put more into this friendship then you ever have, and you don't even give a ...

Love & SexMy BF’s Porn

22 comments | August 12th, 2012


(by Katie, a 25yo Chestist)

There's so much about this story sent us by one of you we think is important, let's just let her do the talking:

I don't know if I'm upset right now. Or even if I should be.

I hopped on the BF's laptop to check email this morning (his was on and I was lazy enough to not want to turn mine on) and saw he had some... ahem... visual aids... up in the tabs. Now, we have frequently used porn of various kinds as foreplay ("Do you like this? Why? Why not?") so me checking out what was selected has positive precedent with us.

But these were all "Barely Legal!" and "All Horny Teens!" sites... Not the usual variety pack of mid/latetwenties, obviously adult bodies. Im willing to enjoy the blanket assumption that all of these girls are fully legal and do this to support their own, noncoerced sexuality, but all I can see is the girls in the teen Girl Scout troop I volunteered with last year. I texted him to ask about it (nicely, I swear) and he called not ...

#bodiesBattery Operated

10 comments | August 8th, 2012

exploding flowers

(by anonymous)

I'm 28 and have orgasms by myself, but having them during sex seems very difficult for me.

I've been having sex for a good 13 years and the big O only comes with the help of a battery operated device. {end story}

There's no doubt orgasms make us feel more better (yup, you can quote us on that).  So a quick and orgasms a) always b) never c) sometimes d) only with a vibrator e) only by ____ (fill in the blank).  Remember, you can always comment anonymously at Feel More Better.

(note" this story came in as a comment on this one.)



Love & SexA New Relationship

8 comments | August 5th, 2012


(by anonymous, 20)

My whole life I've been a confident and independent girl. I crave deep connection (and luckily find it frequently as I am from a huge and fabulous family), but I have crippling fears of vulnerability.

I'm happy to be dating a man who is my first real relationship. Navigating these new waters of being in a serious relationship is fun but so terrifying. I feel naked half of the time, hiding the other half. Is that normal?

I keep thinking "what's the point?" of getting in so deep with this guy when we are both so young, it will probably only end in heartbreak. It's horrible to not be able to just be present and enjoy where I am right now, but that question eats at me. I just assume that my bf and I will eventually break up, and sometimes I think I self-sabotage and try to expedite the process. I thought I would feel better when he said "I love you," but this feeling won't go away.

Does this mean I'm not in love? I was certain I was until he ...


8 comments | August 3rd, 2012

exploding flowers

(story submitted by E, a 32 yo Chestist)

Oh, hello:

I had my first orgasm ever last night!  I'm 32!  I was alone!  I may never leave the house again!  {end story}

Is it easier for you to orgasm with or without a partner (if at all)? P.S. yay for E.

Bad Fathers

11 comments | July 29th, 2012

chestist black scratch

(by Natasha, 19, a Chestist)

My dad gives me crap about my weight and how unpretty I am all the time. For the record, I am 5'2'', 103 lbs (naturally, no eating disorders here), and have been called "stunningly beautiful" and "fairy-like" by my mom's friends. In a month, I'm heading off to college in New York and my dad keeps teasing me in front of the entire family. He says I'm going to come back 50 lbs heavier and looking like a whale, and that it's simply a fact. I also mentioned that a friend of mine auditioned to play a Disney Princess. His response? "She looks more like Ursula." This is one of my best friends. He keeps saying that she's "chunky" and needs to get a nose job. At the same time, he blatantly tells me that he thinks my tall, beautiful, stick-thin friend is one of the sexiest people he has ever met. This kinda language lead to my younger sister's anorexia earlier this year. I've tried talking to him about it, but he won't stop. I'm terrified that he ...

Love & SexEven When You Were Awful

2 comments | July 26th, 2012


(by Lollia, a Chestist)

I think I'm done.


I think I'm over what happened last year. But then I watch 500 Days of Summer or Something Borrowed my heart is ripped afresh. Because I always loved you, even when you were awful to me. You pretended not to notice, but you did, and you used it to manipulate me. But that feeling of going unnoticed, uncared about, it still resonates inside of me, and it still hurts. I have not even been kissed in 18 months. Well, platonically, I have, but not as anything more. And I think it's because that fear still lives inside of me, a fear that you were the only person ever capable of loving me, even though you didn't.  {end story}

Have you ever thought that there was just 1 person for you?  Just 1?  Any advice for our writer?  Remember, sharing your story can help change hers.  

#bodiesOut of Control

9 comments | July 23rd, 2012

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(by Anonymous, a Chestist)

You ever make one decision only to worry that the decision you made has consequences you hadn't necessarily considered to start?  She has and here's her story:

"Don’t even get me started on fears concerning my ability to conceive! I was on the pill for 11 years straight before finally deciding to stop opening that little pink pack on a daily basis, and I’ ve read one too many articles about the effects of birth control on one's body. I’ m not ready to have a kid yet, but I worry all the time about whether or not I will be able to do it when I am."  {end story}

Control's a funny thing.  Sometimes we think we have it only to find out maybe we don't have quite as much as we'd thought - or hoped. Are there things-which-you-cannot-control that are stressing you out?  Why?  #discuss.


Love & SexBest Friends

3 comments | July 18th, 2012

50s chestist

(by Blue Jay, a Chestist)

We used to be so close. We shared everything with no fear of being judged.  We didn't always agree but we always supported each other, trusted each other, and looked to each other.

It doesn't seem like that anymore and I do not know why.  It makes me so sad.  I don't really know a world without her as my best friend.  {end story}

You ever broken up with your BFF; why?  Any advice for Blue Jay?

#bodiesSelf-Loathing, Just Like Mama Taught Me

10 comments | July 12th, 2012

Chestist Shares

(story submitted as a comment, by Lana a Chestist, and reposted here, now)

The writer first posted this as a comment to our story on Mothers, and what they teach us about ourselves - for good and ill.  Here's her story:

When I was 14, my mom told me that, for her, 130 lbs was "big." At that time, I weighed about 165 lbs. In that moment, I wanted to kill myself.

She wasn't telling me to lose weight, she was expressing her own dissatisfaction with her body. My mom has a curvy hourglass figure - she's wears a 32DD Bra and size 12 pants. Her waist is tiny but she has our family's hips bodacious booty. My whole life, my mother talked about food, and she still does. She decides to "hate" foods that have "too much fat," like cheesecake, which, I recently found out, she actually loves but told me that she hated it my whole life. She won't even drink a latte because it has "too much milk." She has been on Weight Watchers my entire life and when we went around the table ...

Pregnancy Loss.

7 comments | July 8th, 2012


(submitted by Nicole S, a Chestist)

"Baby "Gunther", on May 1, 2012, I heard your little, but strong heartbeat. You were right around the 160's and still even at 14 weeks, you made mommy sick in the mornings. Shelley, the midwife, said that eventually that would taper off. I told her, it must be your way of letting me know you were still in there since it was too early to feel movement.

As the weeks progressed, it was evident that you were starting to grow. My belly started sticking out and I got what was the beginning of a baby bump! I was totally in denial, thinking, "It's much too early and at my size, I'm sure this is cake or ice cream." But a couple more weeks passed, and I noticed that my feet were disappearing. I was elated and nervous! I just knew I had gained a ton of weight.

I was excited and nervous for my appointment on May 29 with the midwife. I figured if my belly was making my feet disappear, then surely I had gained a ton of weight. I knew it ...

Love & SexShould I Tell Him The Truth?

12 comments | July 6th, 2012


(story submitted by tooyoungforthis, a chestist)

Ok so I'm young and my boyfriend and I are going through this stage where we're just like all over each other all the time and we just recently talked about marriage and how we want to wait until we get married to have sex blah blah blah but now we don't know if we can wait that long since were both so young anyway he thinks I'm a virgin which I'm not and all the stuff I've done with him I've done with one other guy (a previous boyfriend) when I was really really really young so before we go down this path should I tell him the truth? Or should I just not say anything? Help please! {end story}

Our 2 cents and 3 words...speak your truth.  Why do otherwise?  Who agrees ~ or doesn't?  

Happy HatingHow Do I Cope?

3 comments | July 5th, 2012

chestist sad

(story submitted anonymously, by a Chestist)

my dad's a drunk...

...although i have many great people who are willing to talk to me or just listen. im so tired of them acting like they know how i feel or that its gonna get better. IM. SO. TIRED. OF. IT. because they dont! they dont know how it feels to be scared coming home from school, or being embarassed to have your friends over because your dads passed out in the living room, etc. and STOP TELLING ME ITS GONNA GET BETTER. because its not! the only way its gonna get better is if he wants to get better and he doesnt. he doesnt. so no dont tell me you know how it feels. i get that everyone has problems but no one should have to live with this because it SUCKS. it really does...the thing is, my mom and i both want to leave but we cant unless we want to be do i cope with this...i dont know what to do and i want it all to stop. {end story}

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