Love and/Or Money

8 comments | April 20th, 2012


(story submitted by Cie, a Chestist)

My 3 closest friends just had an "attitude intervention" with me.  They took me out to dnner and in the middle of it I could seem them all making eye contact and looking serious,  Then they proceeded to launch into how miserable I've been to myself and to nbe around for the past few months.  That all I do is complain about how my life sucks and that they were just overt it.  The things is, they're right.

My 30th birthday was in January, and I've been in a total funk since then.  I didn't think it wuld be such a big deal, it's just a number, but I have been spraling since then.  My life is fine.  It's my banck account that's not. I always thought by the time I was 30, I'd have a job and financial security.  I have a job, but no financial security.  Ok, some financial security.  It's just that all my friends married really successful guys and on top of their careers, they've got so much money and do and buy whatever they ant.

I hate thinking I'm so ...

Love & SexNot Ready to Go

10 comments | April 2nd, 2012


(story submitted anonymously, by a Chestist)

Ever been in love but not in-sync sexually?  That's the story she's living - with her husband.

i used to always be ready to go when it came to me and my spouse. but now i have no want ever! and it's just not good anymore, and i dont know why but i never ever ever get turned on.  The  things that used to dont now....

Why am i feeling like this!?!?!?!  I know im in love but.... i dont know what to do.  {end story}

Any advice?  Ever found yourself running out of sexual steam for your partner?  What'd you do?  Share your story., won't you?

Love & SexI Married The Wrong Guy

7 comments | March 29th, 2012

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(story submitted anonymously, by a Chestist)

I'm thinking about leaving my husband.  I think I married the wrong guy.  I'm still young, I don't want to spend my life waiting for him to be the man I thought he was.  I'm so afraid to give-up and afraid to be "divorced" before I'm 28. My mother would never let me hear the end of it.  What if I never find anyone else?  {end story}

Have you ever stayed in a relationship that wasn't working, just because you were afraid to get out of it?  Do tell...


Love & SexToo Soon To Marry?

6 comments | March 15th, 2012


(story submitted by Kristina, a Chestist)

Sometimes we get what we think we've always wanted only to find out maybe it's not what we want now.  Here's her story:

I'm engaged to a loving, wonderful man. But I find myself thinking about a friend of mine an awful lot. 

I wonder if I'm not in love with my fiance..or if it's my insecurity about myself. Am I really marrying someone I don't love....or do I just want to make sure I could get someone else if I wanted? He was my first boyfriend. Maybe I feel like he's the only one I could get, because I don't think I'm beautiful. He could have anyone...but I don't feel very chosen...and my friend makes me feel like a rare jewel.

I don't know. I'm still young and maybe I'm just not ready to submit myself to the will of another yet.  I've barely touched freedom to my lips and I'm giving it up before I even take a bite? {end story}

While we're pretty sure "submitting to the will of another" ought not be part of any marriage, we ...

Love & SexMs.

6 comments | January 21st, 2012

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This was a question Maureen Dowd from the NYT asked about and during the hearings for Supreme Court Justice Kagan.  We've been talking to a lot of unmarried women lately, friends and such, and it seems more than a couple of them wold feel better being in a bad marriage than no marriage at all.  We don't get it, but who are we to judge what works for them?

What do you think?  Is the difference between single and unmarried age or a mindset?  And what about you...would you rather be (or have been) in a bad marriage than no marriage at all?  Is marriage something you think completes your expectations of self?  Let's talk about it.


Love & SexMarried to a Meth Addict

41 comments | November 11th, 2011

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(story submitted anonymously, by a 22 yo Chestist)

So our first reaction as we read this, sent to us by one of you, was "wow.  how could she not know!?"  Then we realized we were judging and that love can blind us to even the most obvious of things.  Here's her story: I've been married with my husband for 3 years now. When i met him he was addicted to Crystal meth and weed. I am currently on my last year of college and i will be graduating with a bachelors in Criminal Justice.

When i met him and he told me about his addictions i told him that i could not be in a relationship with someone who does drugs because of my future career and simply because you cant have a family and live a normal life like that. He said he really liked me and that he was willing to quit, and that he had been looking for a reason to stop,and that i would be the reason he would stop.

So, i decided to give him a chance we started dating and everything was ...

#lifestagesRevoking My Own Feminist Card

9 comments | October 31st, 2011

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(story submitted by Peva, a Chestist)

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I thought I was a modern woman of the twenty-first century, but lately I'm starting to question that.

Ironing my husband's shirts? Check.

Doing my darnedest to make sure I've got a hot dinner waiting for him? Check.

Moving to a new city and state for his job and redefining my career? Check.

I love caring for him and love the life we've created, but sometimes I wonder how I'll find my own ideal balance between playing wife and being my own woman. {end story}.

Ah, life.  Sometimes even when it's good it forces us to make compromises and choose between a and b.  Actually, often times it does.  Whether you're married or not, you ever find yourself being pulled in two directions...torn between what you're doing, want to do - and maybe even what you thought you'd always do or be?