Love & SexSex and Happyness

7 comments | September 28th, 2012


(story by FMB, on repeat, via dailymaiil)











Want to get happier?  Get busy.  That's the implication of a study from the U.K. (they're so far ahead of us on so many things).  Check it:

"Making love boosts our happiness more than anything else."  Yup, according to this study of 45,000 iPhone users, having sex is the best way to help yourself feel good.

So, we've got 2 questions.  One, is this true for you?  And 2, what if the sex is only meh?  Let's #discuss.

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#bodiesBattery Operated

10 comments | August 8th, 2012

exploding flowers

(by anonymous)

I'm 28 and have orgasms by myself, but having them during sex seems very difficult for me.

I've been having sex for a good 13 years and the big O only comes with the help of a battery operated device. {end story}

There's no doubt orgasms make us feel more better (yup, you can quote us on that).  So a quick and orgasms a) always b) never c) sometimes d) only with a vibrator e) only by ____ (fill in the blank).  Remember, you can always comment anonymously at Feel More Better.

(note" this story came in as a comment on this one.)




8 comments | August 3rd, 2012

exploding flowers

(story submitted by E, a 32 yo Chestist)

Oh, hello:

I had my first orgasm ever last night!  I'm 32!  I was alone!  I may never leave the house again!  {end story}

Is it easier for you to orgasm with or without a partner (if at all)? P.S. yay for E.

#bodiesOut of Control

9 comments | July 23rd, 2012

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(by Anonymous, a Chestist)

You ever make one decision only to worry that the decision you made has consequences you hadn't necessarily considered to start?  She has and here's her story:

"Don’t even get me started on fears concerning my ability to conceive! I was on the pill for 11 years straight before finally deciding to stop opening that little pink pack on a daily basis, and I’ ve read one too many articles about the effects of birth control on one's body. I’ m not ready to have a kid yet, but I worry all the time about whether or not I will be able to do it when I am."  {end story}

Control's a funny thing.  Sometimes we think we have it only to find out maybe we don't have quite as much as we'd thought - or hoped. Are there things-which-you-cannot-control that are stressing you out?  Why?  #discuss.


#thecumulativeeffectSexual Double Standards

6 comments | June 17th, 2012

double standard

(story submitted by DS, a Chestist)

My best guy friend had a threesome and ever since he told me about it the first time I've had a fantasy about having one (not with him). 

I love sex.   2 guys and me -- twice as many hands, tongues, lips, arms, legs and bodies doing all the things bodies do.  I mean, come on.

I don't think it's ever going to happen.  The perceptions of a guy who has a threesome is so different than if a girl does.  As archaic as I think that is I don't know if I can deal with it.  It's not like a lot of people would know but there's such a double standard.  Some fantasies are meant to stay fantasies I guess. {end story}

DS' story reminds us of Kevin Smith's movie Chasing Amy (with Ben Affleck).  You think there's a sexual double standard for women and men?  What can we do to change it?

Love & SexI’m Not Good In Bed

6 comments | May 21st, 2012

chestist enthralled

(story submitted anonymously, by a Chestist)

I don't think I'm very good in bed.  It was hard to say that even in writing.  No one's ever told me that I'm not good and I've been doing this for a while but I just don't think I'm good.  I don't know if it's a lack of imagination or what exactly. 

Everyone else seems to think they're all great lovers.  But how do you know if you really are?  {end story}

Interesting question that.  How do you know if you are or aren't?

Some New Things

2 comments | May 8th, 2012

summer sun

(story submitted by L, a Chestist)

I've been with my guy for 3 years and everything's great.  I do kind of want to try some new things in the bedroom and am afraid he'll think I'm weird and get turned-off.  How do I ask him to try something? {end story}

Alright everybody, any advice?

#lifestagesWhen I Was 16

8 comments | May 1st, 2012

black explosion chestist

(story submitted anonymously, by a Chestist)

When I was 16 I had an affair with a guy who was 40.  When I was 16, I thought I was mature and he was amazing.  I thought it was a relationship. 

These years later, I look back on it and think he was sick and disgusting and I was delusional.  I get angry at that younger me for being so naive.  I'm not sure why it bothers me so much now it just does.  What a pig he must have been to have sex with a 16 year-old.  What an idiot I was.  {end story}

And regrets, we've got a few.  What about you - anything you look back on from days gone by and think "what was I thinking?"  Does it hate on your happy now, or do you just chalk it up to experience and appreciate it for that?

Supposed To Be An Adult

11 comments | April 20th, 2012


(story submitted by JV, an 18 yo Chestist)

Sex and expectations can be a messy combination.  Here's her story:

I'm 6 weeks away from graduating High School. I don't know why but I don't want to go to college a virgin, and I still am.

I've had lots of boyfriends and 1 serious one, but I never felt ready to do that.  Now I do, and I don't have any one I want to do it with.  I'm torn between feeling like I should just do it and get it over with, find some random guy friend and pull him into a closet or something, and wanting it to be special on the other hand.

Most but not all of my friends have already done it.  Some were drunk, some were "in love", some just because they didn't see what the big deal was.  It was a big deal to me so I waited.  Now I'm wondering if I waited too long.  I know I'll have sex one day.  I just feel like I should now before I leave home.  It seems like you're supposed to be an adult at college and ...

Love & SexI Had Sex With Your Cousin.

5 comments | April 16th, 2012

Chestist typewriter 2

(story submitted by RES, a 19 yo Chestist)

Sometimes our past can intrude on our present.  Here's her story:

The guy I've been dating wants to make it official and is getting upset that I keep putting my decision off. I really do want to be with him because he's great, but before I ever knew he existed on the planet I slept with his cousin (two night stand, two years ago)...I don't want to bring it up, but I also do want him to just magically find out 2nd hand. I don't know what to do. {end story}

Here at OOC HQ, we don't think RES has anything to be uncomfortable with, and that she should say something because a lie of omission is a lie nonetheless.  But some people react strangely to things like who else we've slept with.  What do you think she should do?

Love & SexNot Ready to Go

10 comments | April 2nd, 2012


(story submitted anonymously, by a Chestist)

Ever been in love but not in-sync sexually?  That's the story she's living - with her husband.

i used to always be ready to go when it came to me and my spouse. but now i have no want ever! and it's just not good anymore, and i dont know why but i never ever ever get turned on.  The  things that used to dont now....

Why am i feeling like this!?!?!?!  I know im in love but.... i dont know what to do.  {end story}

Any advice?  Ever found yourself running out of sexual steam for your partner?  What'd you do?  Share your story., won't you?

Love & SexWhy Can’t Women Sleep Around?

51 comments | March 13th, 2012

chestist blue

(story submitted by KSE, a Chestist)

This writer's wondering why her BF has a problem with the number of guys she's been with.  Here's her story:

I've been with a lot of guys.  Not hundreds but a lot.  I like sex and I like men and I like having sex with men.  I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years.  He hasn't slept with that many women and I think it freaks him out that I've had so much more sex and so many more partners than he has.  Isn't that so sexist of him?  His being all freaked out about my past make me wonder if we can have a future. If the situations were reversed, and he'd had slept with a lot more people than me, he wouldn't think twice and wouldn't expect me to either.  It's 2012.  Why can't women sleep around and have it be as much of a no-biggie as when guys do? 

We agree @OOC HQ agree...there's still this cultural double standard about women and sex that doesn't exist for men.  You agree or disagree?  Why do you think the double ...

#bodiesEVERY TIME!?! (Rated R)

21 comments | March 9th, 2012

WTF Burst

(submitted anonymously by a Chestist.  Posted 5.20.11 and again now)

This reader is getting if off her chest, though it sounds like that  may be the only place she's getting it off.  Her (very short) story is rated R.  We have a feeling she's not alone.  Is she?

"Do I have to show him where my clit is EVERY TIME??? " [end of story.]

What frustrates you in bed (or on the floor or...)  if he (or she) doesn't get where you want them to go, are you comfortable speaking your truth and showing them the way?

Remember, you can always comment anonymously.


Love & SexDr. Freud?

4 comments | February 27th, 2012


(story submitted anonymously, by a Chestist)

Ever found yourself physically to someone who you just do not think you should be?  She is:

I keep finding myself attracted to therapists. Not mine, thank god, but the idea of one. Like, physically attracted to.

I've been in therapy since childhood and have always been fascinated by the mind, but I really don't know what's going on and am afraid it makes me perverted somehow. Or crazy. which i'm not. I'm in therapy because I have had issues with self-esteem. I have no idea what is going on. what is wrong with me? {end story}

While we're not sure why this potential Freud-fretish is upsetting our writer - it is.  What about you, ever find yourself lusting after a certain person - or type of person (astronauts maybe) - in a way you didn't quite get? Do you have a look or type that you've always been drawn to?  Any thoughts (or questions) for our writer?  Bring it on and bring it all...  

#lifestagesThe More You Know

61 comments | January 10th, 2012


(story by Mir, from I grew up in the 70s and 80s, which was of course the era of Very Meaningful After School Specials and the little "The More You Know" PSAs on television. (Also: "This is your brain. This is your brain on drugs. Any questions?" My smart-ass question was always, "But what if I want my eggs scrambled?") I attended middle and high school just as national phobia about the AIDS epidemic hit, too, which meant that I was subjected to year after year of watching middle-aged women---always someone a little stodgy, unflappable, and so unremarkable that we all felt positive she had most certainly NEVER had sex---come to an assembly for the express purpose of rolling a condom down a banana as a demonstration of How To Stay Safe. Schools were teaching sex ed with a vengeance, you might say. At least where I was. Plus, as I've mentioned before, I grew up in a household that very much believed that knowledge is power. My mother talked to me early and often about my body, sexual maturation, and all ...