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Bikini Season

9 comments | May 17th, 2012

chestist threads

(story submitted anonymously, by a 25 yo Chestist)

My summer house-share starts next weekend and I am not in bikini-season shape, physically or emotionally.  I love summer but sometimes I really hate bathing suits. {end story}

Ah summer, the stuff of warm nights, cold drinks, the smell of suntan lotion...and bathing suits.  Is "bikini season" something you think about it?  How's it make you feel?

Tell Her One Thing

3 comments | May 16th, 2012

chestist soup

(idea submitted anonymously, by a Chestist)  

We got this from one of you a couple of months back and have had it in our inbox since because we think it's a really good idea ~ we just couldn't figure out what to do.  Then, lo and behold, it occurred to what we always do, post it.  Easy right?  So here's an idea and a story-starter from one of you for the rest of us:

i think it would be really cool to do a mother/daughter thing on OOC, maybe ask people to submit something that they wish they could tell their mom or wish they could tell their daughter

Just in time for next year's mother's day, or maybe perfectly timed for today...whether for your mother, your daughter, whomever, share that one thing in the comments.  Remember, if you share your story maybe you'll help change hers.

And always let us know if you have any ideas about things and stories you'd like to see here @OOC.  We promise to move faster next time.


#lifestagesBuying What I Can’t Afford

6 comments | May 15th, 2012


(story submitted anonymously, by a Chestist)

I've got $22,000 in credit card debts because I've been buying shoes and bags and going out.  I'm sick about it.  How am I ever going to pay this off? 

I've got a decent job but my lifestyle is more expensive than I can afford.  My rent takes most of my money and I already have school loans to deal with.  I'm so mad at myself.  I have to stop buying what I can't afford.  {end story} 

Debt can be quite the happyness buzz-kill.  You ever find yourself living beyond your means?  How much $ do you think it takes for you to be happy (can $ make you happy)?

Love & SexA Friend of A Friend

1 response | May 15th, 2012


(story by T, a 28 yo Chestist)

Everything was going really well.  We've been living together for 2 years and I was so sure we were going to get married.  Now I'm not.

It's too obvious to say he's perfect for me I just think he might be.  At least I used to.  Then one night a few months ago we met her, a friend of a friend, and I could tell immediately there was something between them.  There wasn't actually anything between them they'd just met.  There was something though.  It sounds as dumb as saying he's perfect for me but I could see them connect on some unspoken level.  Like I think true-love happens.

It was obvious.  They were glued to each other for the rest of the night.  I know it was only talk because I was there. Since then it's been different between us. I don't think it's in my head, I think it's in his.  The thing is, I think he may be falling in love with another girl.  I'm not even mad, I'm jealous and sad.

I've tried to bring it up ...

Happy HatingHappyness is a Practice*

8 comments | May 14th, 2012

chestist blue

(story submitted anonymously, by a Chestist)

I'm not very good at being happy.

Don't get me wrong, I'm happy sometimes, but it feels strange, like shoes that need breaking in. It doesn't feel normal to me.  {end story}

Oh how we wish we didn't get this as much as we do.  What about you?  Does happyness* feel comfortable or like a new pair of shoes/  What about sadness?

*we spell happyness with a "Y" both because we think it looks better that way, but mroe relevantly becuase we think being our happyest and feeling more better requires understanding "why" we do and don't feel/like what we do.  Understanding the "why" can be as important as the "what".


#bodiesA Grey Pubic Hair!

7 comments | May 13th, 2012

WTF Burst

(story submitted anonmously, by a 36 yo Chestist)

I just found a grey pubic hair!  OMG, a-grey-pubic-hair.  I don't have any wrinkles and have never felt old before.  I've never wanted to get a Brazilian before.   I feel old now.  I am in shock. {end story}

Aging can creep up on you and then BAM there it is right in your lap.  Do you remember the first physical sign you were getting older ~ even if it was puberty?  Do you worry about getting "old"?

Happy HatingBecause I’m…

5 comments | May 13th, 2012


(story submitted anonymously by a 23 yo Chestist)

Sometimes I feel less desirable because I'm black, isn't that terrible? {end story}

Have you ever felt less "desirable" because of a part of what you are?  Are there others you find less desirable because of what they are?

Love & SexLow Self-Esteem, No More.

7 comments | May 13th, 2012

Chestist Shares

(story submitted by Alicia, a 21 yo Chestist, on OOC rewind )

What we love about this is that it's 1 of you talking to and sharing with all of us. Nice, right?  Here's her story:

I've always been a person with low self-esteem and used to think nobody could love me with all my flaws and my negative view of life.

But now I've learned the lesson: you don't have to be perfect to love and be loved back.

I understand life is unique, and I'm the best me. There's no other you in the world, so play your best role. Now I'm with a boy that loves me for who I am and understands beauty is something relative. He thinks I'm beautiful and that I'll always be.

I hope this helps you. {end story}

We love this, and like Alicia, we hope it helps too.  And again, we also want to throw some love to Alicia for writing and caring enough about others to share what she's learned and learning.  That's cool.


#lifestagesHer Last Mother’s Day?

8 comments | May 11th, 2012

chestist sad

(story submitted by Theresa, a Chestist)

This year's mother's day is bittersweet. On the one hand I derive much joy in my own role as mother. On the other hand I must accept that I am losing my mom, whom I admire and adore.

My mother has ALS, a gradual but unstoppable atrophying of her muscles. She lives in FL, I live in NYC- Skype keeps us in touch. It limits how much of her decline I see. But it's still happening, even if I can't see it.  In the last three months she has lost the ability to transfer out of and into her wheel chair. This newly revealed bit of info does not bode well in terms of her beating the "average" ALS patient's lifespan of 3-5 years. She was diagnosed just before my son was born. My son is two and a half.

I am expecting a second son this August, and as mother's day approaches, I have been aware that my mom is unlikely to get the chance to hold him. Perhaps her health will hold long enough for us to visit her and set an infant ...

Love & SexHello, Mom?

8 comments | May 10th, 2012

cloudy talk burst

(story submitted by A.L.C., a Chestist)

My mother's been dead for 2 years.  I was never very close with her and the truth is I didn't like or respect her very much.  I've always thought that being a parent was about having this unconditional love for your child for my mom it was all about whether or not we had unconditional love for her.  I guess I didn't.

That's why it was seriously strange when earlier today something really good happened and my first thought was "oh, I should call mom."  I don't know if it's because it's mother's day on Sunday or what, but not only is she dead, I didn't  talk with her very much when she was alive.  That instinct to pick up my phone and call her is kind of weirding me out.  Where did that come from?  {end story}

Obviously Sunday is all about celebrating, well, Mother's (yes, our insights know few bounds).  Not everyone has (or had) a mother you feel like celebrating though.  On a scale of 1-10, how do you think your mother did?  Anything you need ...

#chestismsMy Thoughts Manifest

9 comments | May 10th, 2012


(Story by ERF, a Chestist)

Our thoughts make our world, I've always believed this.  I think I read online recently that worrying is like praying for something bad to happen and it really resonated for me.  I've been making it a habit to focus my mind as I get in bed at night on how grateful I am, on all the things and people I have to appreciate, and to set an intention for peace of mind, and an abudance of health, wealth, and happiness.  I don't know if I can actually manifest these thoughts but it's a nice way to end a day even if not. (end story}

What do you guys think?  How does (or can) what you think affect how you feel and what you do and can become?  Do you ever set intentions for yourself, your day, or anything?

(P.S. we decided to illustrate this story with astronauts, as an ode to the intention set by President Kennedy when he said "we will put a man on the moon in the next decade."  Turns out we did)

#bodiesSo Tired

5 comments | May 10th, 2012


(submitted by J, a  Chestist)

I think I have that Yuppy sickness from years ago.  You know the one where you're always tired.  I am always tired.  I wake up in the morning and all I want to do is go back to sleep.  I get out of bed to start my day and all I can think about is when I might be able to sneak a nap.  On the weekends, I nap on Saturday and Sunday.  No matter how much sleep I get, I'm, still so tired.

I've had my blood checked and I'm no more depressed or not depressed than I've ever been. I feel fine but  I'm just so tired. {end story}

How we feel can have such an affect we feel (sure, you can quote us on that).  When your energy is low, how do you recharge?

Why Can’t I Just Be Happy

5 comments | May 9th, 2012


(story submitted anonymously, by a Chestist)

I started a new job about 3 months ago and I'm so happy.  I'm learning and contributing.  I like my boss, like my co-workers and am making significantly more money.  It's all great so why is there this little voice in my head that keeps wondering when the honeymoon will be over.  Why can't I just be happy and in the moment?  {end story}

Does it ever seem like you're more present when things suck then when things are good?  When things are good and you feel great, do you swim in the happiness or keep witing for the other shoe to drop?


Some New Things

2 comments | May 8th, 2012

summer sun

(story submitted by L, a Chestist)

I've been with my guy for 3 years and everything's great.  I do kind of want to try some new things in the bedroom and am afraid he'll think I'm weird and get turned-off.  How do I ask him to try something? {end story}

Alright everybody, any advice?

#lifestagesI Feel Inadequate

9 comments | May 7th, 2012

green eyed

(submitted anonymously, by a Chestist)

I...don't know what I'm doing. I feel stupid and inadequate because everyone else seems to know who they are and what they want and I'm just not confident enough in myself to do the same.

I feel like a failure; a failure who sits on her computer all day watching others live their wonderful lives and can only think 'I can do that' but doesn't have the balls to do it. {end story}

You ever felt like you're on the outside looking in?