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#lifestagesBest Years of Our Lives

comment | December 8th, 2010

(submitted by OOC: 12.07.10)

Guess we got them out of the way early on...did you know:

Girls' self-esteem peaks when they're 9 years old, then takes a nose dive. (Clinical Psychologist Robin F. Goodman writing on the NYU Child Study Center Web site.) 

#lifestagesWhat Is Up With This?!

comment | December 8th, 2010

(submitted by OOC: 12.07.10)

- 62% of all girls (8-17) feel insecure or not sure of themselves.

- 57% of all girls have a mother who criticizes her own looks.  (now that's self-loathing just the way mama taught us.)

- Over 50% of girls don’t always tell their parents certain things about them because they don’t want them to think badly of them.

So, OOC says...let your girls speak their truths...whatever their truths are.  She'll be better for the sharing.  You'll be better for the knowing.  In our opinion, anyway.

 

(OOC thanks the source: Dove's Real Girls, Real Pressures research report.  (Go to http://www.dove.us/#/makeadifference/report.aspx for more)

 

#bodiesMan Slaps Boob

comment | December 1st, 2010

I’m walking down the street one day minding my own business and this guy is walking towards me and HE just SLAPS MY BOOBS as if they weren’t attached to me and as if it was within HIS RIGHTS to slap them BECAUSE they were so BIG.  I was MORTIFIED.  I was crying my eyes out and wondering, “What am I going to do? I don’t feel like my boobs are a part of me and this guy confirmed that by realizing that he can just slap them at will.”  

I decided I had to do something about it, so I got a breast reduction.  I’m so happy with them now.  I feel THEY’RE A PART OF ME and they’re always going to be a part of me now.  My confidence has gotten so much greater and I feel so much better about myself.  It’s the GREATEST THING I could have done for MYSELF.

Autumn, 34

#bodiesWhat Are Normal Breasts?

comment | December 1st, 2010

I was just thinking about how there’s this thing about “normal breasts.” What the hell is that?  What’re normal breasts?  Like, somebody talks about, “Oh, I had normal breasts when I was so-and-so age,” or “I had normal breasts when I was older,” or “when I got a reduction,” or “when I got implants,” or - what?

I’m 40 years-old this year, and it’s reminding me of when I was 12 because I feel like I’m going through the same kind of societal pressure where I’m either embarrassed or they’re not useful or they’re not the way they’re supposed to be.  It seems so odd.  Like, I’m SUPPOSED TO BE 40 years-old and I’ve made it through all these years of my life, and I’m SUPPOSED TO BE, like, this woman.  And everybody says, “Oh, you’re stronger now, and you’ve made it through all of these experiences,” and - God, yeah, lots of experiences.  

But, I have this INSECURITY again.  And I just wish it wasn’t like that.  I wish I could feel perfect just the way I am. 

Dawn also shared this story on video. Watch it here. 

Dawn, 40

#bodiesSmoke & Mirrors

comment | November 30th, 2010

I wish women in America were a lot more comfortable with themselves and would realize that Hollywood is fucking SMOKE and MIRRORS, dude.  It’s bullshit.  It’s a joke.  You know what I mean?  Things are taped up.  Shit is tucked back.  You shove yourself salami-like into this bodysuit that gives people such a fucked up way of looking at themselves.  You know what I’m saying?  It’ll just eat away at you. 

(Jenn also shared this story on video.  Watch it here.)

 

#chestismsWill Schuester, a Chestism

comment | November 30th, 2010

chestism

(1st submitted by OOC: 12.18.10, now an OOC Repeat)

"Don't lose track of who you are just because it might be easier to be somebody else."- Will Schuester

Oh, GLEE.  You can be so wise.  We heart you.

 

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