Suspicious Minds

4 comments | March 27th, 2012

(story submitted anonymously, by a Chestist)

Jealousy and suspicion can be quite the happiness haters, don't you think?  We got this story from one of you:

So, I brought a new friend, who happens to be single, over to hang out with me and my friends. I had my boyfriend with me, as he always is, and she was talking about meeting his friend who's also single.

So we hung out all day and all night, and the next day I had to go to work. But in the morning, when I was supposed to take her home, my boyfriend insisted on doing it, and I felt very uneasy about it. Why do I feel so insecure about letting him run a friend home? I've never felt like that before, but then again, he's never tried to be alone with any of my friends before. Should I confront him? Should I even ask? I don't know what could ease my mind. {end story}

What do you think – should she ask?  How would you react in the same situation?  You think she's making a mountain out of a drive home, or WTF is he doing saying he'll drive her home?  Jealousy ever been a part of your world?  Share the detes, won't you?


  • Katie

    Posted on March 27, 2012

    Ask. Not when he has just walked in or you’re feeling flustered. Maybe there’s a calm time in the evening that you guys are both calmly doing ____ and chatting, and just say “I noticed you took a shine to *friend*, that’s great. I guess I just noticed it more because it wasn’t something you had done before.”

    I know it doesn’t work for everyone, but my fella and I talk about pretty much everything rather openly. He and I agreed up front that neither of us read minds and shouldn’t be expected to. If I don’t say anything, he shouldn’t be expected to know something in particular bothered me, unless there’s precedent.

    You say he hasn’t shown this kind of interest before, but maybe he just knew you were off to work and wanted to save you the trip. Our minds help us go “wading in the crazy” long before we should.

    Benefit of the doubt?

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  • Pammy

    Posted on March 27, 2012

    I always assume the worst of people. Not one of my better traits, even when it turns out I was right.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted on April 4, 2012

    I would think he wanted to talk to her alone about meeting his friend.

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