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Out of Control

9 comments | July 23rd, 2012

(by Anonymous, a Chestist)

You ever make one decision only to worry that the decision you made has consequences you hadn't necessarily considered to start?  She has and here's her story:

"Don’t even get me started on fears concerning my ability to conceive! I was on the pill for 11 years straight before finally deciding to stop opening that little pink pack on a daily basis, and I’ ve read one too many articles about the effects of birth control on one's body. I’ m not ready to have a kid yet, but I worry all the time about whether or not I will be able to do it when I am."  {end story}

Control's a funny thing.  Sometimes we think we have it only to find out maybe we don't have quite as much as we'd thought – or hoped. Are there things-which-you-cannot-control that are stressing you out?  Why?  #discuss.

 

9 comments

  • Megan

    Posted on January 26, 2011

    My grandmother just fell suddenly very ill, and I’m worried about my mom because she just lost her dad not very long ago. There’s nothing I could do to help even if I were there with them, but sometimes I worry about being away so much. It also makes me think about my parents getting older, and me not being able to see them very often.

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  • Katie

    Posted on January 26, 2011

    I worry about conception a lot. 3 of my close friends, all under 30, have already had problems. My doctor says you won’t know until you try and so it’s nothing something you should worry about…but it’s hard not to.

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  • OOC

    Posted on January 26, 2011

    Sorry about your Grandmother, Megan. Some of the hardest things in life do seem to be out of our control, don’t they? Thanks for sharing with us, and we hope she gets better soon. XO, OOC

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  • OOC

    Posted on January 26, 2011

    Hi Katie – It’s probably good for our anonymous story-teller to hear that she’s not alone, and we thank you for sharing. What do you think is keeping you from letting go of that worry and just taking things as they come, one day at a time? XO, OOC

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  • Eva@OOC

    Posted on January 26, 2011

    If you’ve looked at the “Us, Exposed” section you will notice that our children do not look a thing like us. It was a long crazy road to make our family. It was not what we expected, and the infertility piece was incredibly difficult and stressful. However, not to get all Pollyanna on you, we cannot imagine our family any other way.
    It is very hard to trust that life will sort itself out, but it seems to. I would say allowing yourself to feel whatever it is you feel is the key. Try hard not to judge yourself. Easier said than done.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted on March 6, 2012

    Ugh.

    Got pregnant 2x when I didn’t want to be.

    Now that I want to be can’t.

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  • Try, and Try again...

    Posted on March 19, 2012

    I made the conscious choice, as a single woman, to stop taking birth control 2 years ago. I had been on it for almost 20 years, in some shape or form! (Patch, Pill, Shot) I know I want children, and was worried about the effect of such drugs. it seems when you are younger, the fear is so opposite! My partner and I now are trying to concieve. It’s scary, not only having had put my body through the abuse of genetically altered hormones, but a family history of failed pregnancies, and infertility! My partner is a huge support, and has been by my side every step of the way. we have conceived once, unfortunately due to unknown rare blood types, we lost her. BUT! The plus side is, we CAN conceive! And although our 1st was taken from us, it was/is correctable, and we are on the road to try again! Frightening stuff, this fertility business!

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    • OOC

      Posted on March 20, 2012

      Dear Try, it can be frightening and it can be hard. Doesn’t it seem like almost everyone is having trouble these days and almost no one is getting it doen “the old fashioned way”?

      Stay strong and stay with it….whatever happens, there are lots of ways to wind up holding YOUR baby in your arms. It doesn’t always happen quickly, easily or as you think it will. When it happens though, it happens exactly as it should. In our opinion and experience any way. Thinking about you and your partner, XO, OOC

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  • Anonymous

    Posted on July 23, 2012

    sometimes i think the biggest risk is not realizing when there are some.

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