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Not As It’s Supposed To Be

9 comments | June 3rd, 2012

(story submitted by CHN, a Chestist)

I just graduated from college.  I don't have a job and I have no prospects.

I think I have to move back in with my parents, which means I have to leave the city, boy, and friends I love.  I'm educated, smart, and I got good grades.  Why does the future seem so bleak?  This is not how it was supposed to go.  (end story}

Whether you've just graduated or not, there are times when things don't seem like they're going as they're supposed to…what do you do?  How do you cope and/or turn them around? 

9 comments

  • 4 Year Degree

    Posted on June 4, 2012

    Welcome to my world. I graduated last year with an English major and have been living at home since. Not sure I’d go that route again as this was not what I saw for myself.

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    • JT

      Posted on June 4, 2012

      I think that’s why so many people are going to law school these days. We just can’t get a job so we get more school. Rough out there. You are not alone.

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  • J.S.

    Posted on June 4, 2012

    When things aren’t going as I think they’re supposed to I really try and take the time to figure out why they’re going as they are and what I can learn from it.

    Things almost always go as they’re supposed to even if that is not as we want them to. The key is to figure out what “supposed” means, IMO.

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    • MCS

      Posted on June 4, 2012

      Such great advice LS, and very consistent with my practice. None of us needs work nor struggle to find meaning when things feel good. It’s in those moments of understanding when and why they don’t feel good that the insights that can really help us grow are born.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted on June 4, 2012

    My approach is very old-school. I cry and throw a fit!

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  • Lisa P

    Posted on June 4, 2012

    It’s really hard out there and a really hard job market. Hang in there and be glad you have a home to go back to.

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  • Andie

    Posted on June 4, 2012

    My mother always taught us to look for the silver lining and to learn ghr lessons of adversity. I always do try.

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  • Barista

    Posted on June 4, 2012

    I have a college degree and I’m making coffee so I don’t have to live at home. I just had to be out on my own. I have 3 roommates, we live in a small place, but we suffer together. I know this will pass. That’s how I get through.

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  • Anouk

    Posted on June 14, 2012

    Generally, when things really go against what I hoped or worked for, I freak out the first day. I start with “sticker shock” about how things have happened, which moves on to imagining the worst possible outcomes in my mind, then internalizing and trying to figure out where I screwed up… Eventually, I get it out of my system and can look at it calmly and come up with a strategy.

    I’m having one of those times now. Except I skipped internalizing, because not being able to find a job and move out of my parents house has nothing to do with laziness. I know I do the best I can every day, I know I apply everywhere and am not being picky, but it’s up to a prospective employer whether they want to interview me or not. All I can do is put myself out there to every place I find, whether I meet all the requirements or not. Because even if I don’t, you never know, they might call anyway because they could pay me less than someone with the right degree or type/length of work experience.

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