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They Say They’re Ok With Who I Am

12 comments | June 21st, 2012

(story submitted by a 17 yo Chestist)

I don't understand why they can't just be happy with who I am.  They're family.  You'd think they'd be nice to their daughter and granddaughter, especially after knowing I self-injure but that just made things worse. I love my family but its hard sometimes.  They say they're okay with who I am but they disapprove of everything I do and everything I stand for.  {end story}

Doesn't matter how old you are or aren't; you ever feel like those closest to you are judging who you are and what you do?  How do you deal with it?

12 comments

  • Letia

    Posted on June 21, 2012

    It’s always harder with family for we think they should accept us unconditionally. Most of the time they don’t. As long as you’re accepting of yourself for who you are, nothing else matters.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted on June 21, 2012

    I’m 10 years olde then this writer and I still feel judged by my family. What I do, who I do it with, how much I get paid, where I live. I’m an adult! Get out of my head, and leave me alone!

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  • C.R.

    Posted on June 21, 2012

    We all have expectations of the ones we love and even the ones we don’t. I think it’s normal and okay to have expectations of others as long as we realize it’s not their job to live up to ours but their own. Equally, it’s important to remember that other people’s judgments are more a commentary on them than on us.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted on June 21, 2012

    It’s sad when family’s act like this. I hope you are not self-harming to them on your side. You are worth more than that.

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  • Lily

    Posted on June 21, 2012

    Plan:

    1. Live long enough to become a self-supporting adult with their own apartment.
    2. Stop returning their phone calls.

    If you’ve already completed Step 1, go directly to Step 2.

    No matter what they say, or what anybody else says, you do not need to stay in contact with your family. They need your consent to be in your life.

    But until you’re self-supporting, you’ll be at everybody’s mercy. Believe me, life gets a lot better when you’re standing on your own two feet. Know why? You get this envelope, and in it is your official certificate that tells you you’re completely qualified to tell people to Fuck Right Off.

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  • FMB

    Posted on June 21, 2012

    Lily ~ you are amazing. Thanks for being a part of what we’re doing here! XO,

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  • Tami

    Posted on June 21, 2012

    Your family is probably projecting their own dissatisfaction with themselves. When people are happy with themselves they are less judgmental. I’m just sayin’…

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  • Anonymous

    Posted on June 21, 2012

    Have you told them how you feel?
    Just like you said it here.
    If not, do it now.

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