Fans, Followers, Friends

5 comments | January 19th, 2012

(by OOC via FastCompany.com)

Some of you may recall that there was a time when life was less quantifiable.  But today, we can count how many friends, fans, followers, comments, replies, likes, links, and how much Klout we all have.  Talk about the pressure of keeping up with the Joneses.

From the original FastCompany article we quote…"While it’s human nature to be social and want to help others, we also have a natural tendency to be competitive, envious, and jealous of others. It is our nature to evaluate our own lives in relative terms. I’m happier when things improve for me relative to how they used to be, but I’m also happier when things seem better for me than for my neighbor. And social media platforms now allow me to make much more direct comparisons."

Not surprisingly, their article was business focused, but the truth of the comparative and relative nature of so much of our lives holds personally as well.  We've always compared ourselves to others – for good and ill.  But now, well, there's just so much more to compare ourselves and others too, and we wonder if ti all adds up to less happiness.

So what do you think and what do you do?  Are you aware of how many friends, fans, followers, connections the people in your social circle have? Do you think if they have more than you that's reflection on you?  If they have fewer, is that a reflection on them?  You moms out there, is this somethin gyou think about in terms of your kids – or that your kids think about?  Let's do the math and see where we net out (like how we did that?)


(Here's the original article in full)



  • N2K

    Posted on January 19, 2012

    OMG. I am SO aware of all these numbers. I have 1 friend who has over 1800 facebook “friends” and I’m like how does she even know 1800 people? How has she even met 1800 people? It makes me feel like I need to get out more!

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  • Wondering Mom

    Posted on January 19, 2012

    My husband and I talk about this a lot. Our twins are still too young to be online on their own,though that will change soon. It all just seems like kids are over-sharing and creating a digital sense of self without the understanding that it cna follow them like a shadow forever. We’re not sure what to do – all advice is welcome. We know we can’t keep them from it, we don’t want to keep them off it, we just want to be able to protect them from what they (and we) don’t know.

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    • Outside Seattle

      Posted on January 19, 2012

      Here’s the advice someone gave us and we turned it into a song chorus with our kids. “Reflect before you share.”

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  • Deb

    Posted on January 20, 2012

    I read a great piece a while back about a guy who invited his 1,000+ Facebook friends to a party at a bar. Many said they were coming. Nobody showed. What do all those numbers really mean? Too public and fake for me.

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