Fallen Into Routines

3 comments | May 6th, 2012

(story submitted anonymously, by a Chestist)

I've been dating him since college.  It's been 6 years.  i love him, but I'm not in-love with him anymore.  I'm not even sure he's in-love with me anymore.

We've fallen into routines that maybe I'd find comforting if we'd been married for 20 years.  I'm only 25 though and I don't want routines.   I want excitement and passion and mad, crazy, lust.  The truth is I don't know if we've ever had that though, and I don't know how to get out of this or even if I should try to.

He's sweet, nice and successful.  I know he loves me and I can trust him.  What if he's the best I can find?  That would be so depressing.  I think. {end story}

We have a rule here @OOC HQ that you compromise is fine but you should never settle.  Have you ever had to choose between compromising and settling…in love, work, with friends? 


  • woollythinker

    Posted on May 7, 2012

    Compromise: acknowledging that in a long-term relationship, “mad, crazy lust” might not be part of the package. (It might. It might not.) Settling: being depressed at this being “the best I can find” and staying anyway. At 25? Really? If your heart doesn’t lift when you see him (or her), if you’re not genuinely thrilled to think of growing old together… it’s not worth it. So many other possibilities. Including, quite possibly, a very happy single life, which could be way better than a permanently mildly depressed coupled existence.

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