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Falling In Love

15 comments | March 16th, 2012

(story submitted anonymously, by a Chestist, an OOC repeat)

Falling in love is the most easy and most amazing feeling in the world.

Falling out of love is the hardest and most painful.

What is love though? You can't see it, you can't touch it or smell it or hear it or any other senses. You can only feel it. Bond with it. Understand it. But to fall correctly and to fall greatly are two completely different things. But only when you fall utterly and irreplacably in love is when you have it right. But how do you know? You don't. There is no signs that say I'm the one. No messages in a bottle showing up at your doorstep giving you the secret to love, life, and laughter.

With that said, I have always had difficulty telling the difference between crushes and love. I always thought falling in and out of love was the hardest experience that affection and attraction gives to you. I was wrong. The absolute worst is when you're completely unsure. When you fall head over heels for someone only to realize you may also love another. But to tell the difference from like and love is hard.

I am best friends with both of these guys and yet you never really do know a person. One is nice and shy and sensitive. Sweet and kind to his nature. I always feel warm and happy and light whenever I'm with him. The other is nice but can be mean and not shy or sensitive. But he is just… I can't explain it. He feels sort of right but not right. He's nice enough, helpful, and quite honestly…stubborn as hell. But you just can't help but love him.

Then I realized the secret. The thing that makes all the difference in the world. I'm still young. I have all the time in the world to understand and pick one. I don't have to force myself to choose now. I may not love either of them. I may just like them. Who knows but I have time to find out. It's not the end of the world. I'm caught as everyone inevitably ends up being. Between what is right and pure or what is great and true.

In life, mostly there are no happily ever afters. No great love stories. It's just a boy meets girl world. It's complicated and unusual and sophisticated. Nothing is for sure and you certainly don't have to be. There's time. You'll make the right choice and understand what you're feeling and what you want when you're ready. When you realize you know what to do and that you know how to make the decision – that is when you'll open your eyes and awaken into the world.

It's not about who wins or who has what or whom. It's about you, yourself, and being true to who you are. Because in the end.. no matter what, you're going to end up with you and no one else. So take your time. You're the only one who knows what you're feeling. So open your heart. What are you feeling? Who is it for? If you're conflicted take a step back and examine it.

And for those broken people…the heart is strong. It will heal.{end story}

Ok, Chestists…your thoughts?  Xo

 

15 comments

  • Shana

    Posted on November 14, 2011

    You can not force love nor force finding the right one for you. Many of us force picking someone, hoping that in the picking we’ve found our one. Good for you for realizing that time is on your side, and that today is not the day you need to choose. You know what, though? Time will always will be on your side, at least when compared to rushing into wrong.

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  • B.

    Posted on November 14, 2011

    This is kind of like a love poem to love. It’s really nice.

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  • Lessons Learned

    Posted on November 14, 2011

    I spent years, like the song says, looking for love in all the wrong places. I would fall head over heels for every guy I went out with more than 3x or slept with 2x. It took one too many heartbreaks before I realized I wasn’t really that into any of them. I was just way into being in love.

    These childhood fantasies about finding the prince or the one true love, can play out in weird ways as we get older. Figuring that all out has helped me avoid lots of frogs even if I am not yet head over heels again.

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  • The Truth

    Posted on November 14, 2011

    Okay, I admit it. I love reality TV. My favorite show is “The Amazing Race”. This season there is a couple in their 50s or 60s who have been together since they were 12 and 13!!!! Not only are they still together, but they get along great! It’s unbelievable. That show brings out the worst in people. It’s stressful as hell, so everyone bickers, snaps and fights. Not these two. This couple laughs, jokes, and supports each other every minute. It is really inspiring. I wouldn’t want to have been with only one person my whole life, but I sure would like that kind of harmony.

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    • Eva@OOC

      Posted on November 14, 2011

      I’ll join you in your guilty pleasure. :) I watch “The Race” too, and those two are great. Gives us all something to work towards. Thanks for sharing.

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  • Bittersweet

    Posted on November 15, 2011

    I read this yesterday and had to come back today to say that I keep singing “love stinks, yea, yea” in my head ever since reading this the first time.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted on November 15, 2011

    Falling in love is like a walk in the rain in Paris. totally cliche, and totally cliche for a reason. Few things feel better than the falling in love part. Few things are harder than the staying in love part.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted on November 16, 2011

    I understand what you mean. People say the most romantic present in the world is a jar of air from Paris. Like just the smell of it can make you fall head over heals in love. But it’s all just not that easy.

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  • LiveLaughLove

    Posted on December 6, 2011

    Nice guy finishes last, he was just a setup to describe the bad boy we just can’t help but love. Use him and drop him, we’re young and beautiful! Men fall at our feet and will always keep doing so because we really are that wonderful and special. Girl power!

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  • branch

    Posted on March 17, 2012

    “the heart is strong. It will heal.{end story}”

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    Posted on October 14, 2014

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