Despair Ain’t Got Nothing on Me

4 comments | March 19th, 2012

(story submitted anonymously, by a 22 yo Chestist)

You know that expression about every journey begins with a single step?  Sounds like she's quite a few into her's and she has some advice to share:

I've spent a lot of time over the past few years punishing myself for not being good enough in each and every way. I've been feeling so low for a very long time.

But by making an effort to understand myself, I've come to accept the experiences of my past and look to the future. I felt like i'd failed at life.  Despite only being 22, the future looked bleak, and there was a voice inside my head telling me that I wasn't good enough or capable enough to do the things I wanted. Then there was the guilt that came with it, because I also didn't feel I deserved to feel this way, I was healthy, had friends and freedom.  I only now am starting to feel like I'm no longer beating myself up. I came to a realization the other day and thought here would be a good place to share it….

Take a moment to contemplate how lucky you are to be alive. To be sitting, standing and passing each moment, just being with yourself.  Each breath is a blessing, not necessarily from god, but because it reminds you that you are alive, listen to it.  Embrace each moment of sadness, and happiness and think of those millions of people that aren't lucky enough to feel happy or sad.  When worrying about growing old, think about all those people who for whatever misfortune wont be able to.  So 'amor fati', love each moment of despair, happiness or sadness. Because it means you are alive.

Sorry to sound so cliché, but it sort of rings true when you're ready. When you're feeling lucky – good luck will come your way. I hope!  {end story}

Perspective is that thing that helps us take the bad, the despair and sadness that can sometimes be inevitable in life and turn them into something positive.  Do you guys think you can get perspective from good things…from joy and happiness…or is it just the silver lining in the downside?  And what about fate?  Do you believe in it, love it, fear it, fight against it (can we fight fate)?

Fate – yea or nay?

And thanks so to the writer for caring enough to share.  XO, OOC



  • Anonymous

    Posted on March 19, 2012

    I believe in fate 100%. Thing is, if you believe in fate you have to accept the good and the bad as part of the plan.

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  • Pammy

    Posted on March 19, 2012

    I am struck often times by the cruelty we can all readily express to and for ourselves. Crazy. Good for you for rising above it and thank you for sharing it.

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  • Sharon Benson

    Posted on March 19, 2012

    If only we could give ourselves the same breaks we give to other people. I have always wondered why I can not.

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  • PP

    Posted on March 19, 2012

    I believe in fate to some degree. But, I think we can effect what happens in our lives by the choices we make. Now why do we make certain choices? Some is nature, some is nurture. I guess at the end of the day, I think we can choose our path. Things will happen that are beyond our control, but how we react and act is up to us.

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