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Her Last Mother’s Day?

8 comments | May 11th, 2012

(story submitted by Theresa, a Chestist)

This year's mother's day is bittersweet. On the one hand I derive much joy in my own role as mother. On the other hand I must accept that I am losing my mom, whom I admire and adore.

My mother has ALS, a gradual but unstoppable atrophying of her muscles. She lives in FL, I live in NYC- Skype keeps us in touch. It limits how much of her decline I see. But it's still happening, even if I can't see it.  In the last three months she has lost the ability to transfer out of and into her wheel chair. This newly revealed bit of info does not bode well in terms of her beating the "average" ALS patient's lifespan of 3-5 years. She was diagnosed just before my son was born. My son is two and a half.

I am expecting a second son this August, and as mother's day approaches, I have been aware that my mom is unlikely to get the chance to hold him. Perhaps her health will hold long enough for us to visit her and set an infant on her lap. It is a big perhaps. Any cold or upper respiratory illness could whisk her away from us.

She *is* here this year, and the three of us have done what we can to shower her with our love. As this mother's day approaches, I am mindful that it may be my mother's last one. {end story}

We got all choked up when we read Theresa's story.  What can you do to shower your mom with your love? 
 

8 comments

  • Katie

    Posted on May 11, 2012

    This is sad. My wishes go to you and your family.

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  • D.T.

    Posted on May 11, 2012

    Best gift I could give my mother would be grandchildren which seh reminds me of all the time. I’m trying mom, I’m trying!

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  • Shelley

    Posted on May 11, 2012

    My mother died when I was only 19. Whether this is your mother’s last or not, only time and God will tell. Enjoy what you have now. You will never regret that.

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  • Can't Stop Trying

    Posted on May 12, 2012

    For what seems like the whole of my life I have been trying to show my mother how much I love her. It never seems to be enough though. I will try again tomorrow and the day after that and the day after that.

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    • OOC

      Posted on May 13, 2012

      We’re sorry. That’s so hard. Do you keep trying because you want to or have to? Are you trying to prove something to yourself or her? Whatever the answers, wishing you an easier path with her from here. XO, OOC

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  • Momof2

    Posted on May 12, 2012

    I lost my mom when my kids were very little. It is very sad for me that she has not been able to see who they are and who I am as a mom. I do tell my kids lots of stories about her, and that helps me feel like I am keeping her alive.

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  • Mia Lawten

    Posted on May 13, 2012

    I hope you and your family had a great day with her!

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