I Am No Longer Comparing

5 comments | June 20th, 2012

(story submitted anonymously, by a 33 yo Chestist)

Sometimes what we see is not what we get.  Check out her story:

I was staring in the mirror.  Noting every flaw, every change, every thing I wished were different.  I was picking myself apart – more observationally than negatively, and wondering how what I had once been had become this 33 year-old version of me now, when I found myself saying "wow, you don't look very good."

Just as suddenly and actually taking me by surprise, I found myself saying "it is what it is and you are what you are."  And I smiled at my reflection, and walked away feeling pretty good about the me that I am and no longer comparing it to the me I used to be :-) {end story}

Truth, the happy ending here took us by delightful surprise.  How's about you, Chestists? What do you see when you look at you in the mirror?  However it makes you feel, why do you think you feel that way?   What needs to happen or change for you to feel (even) better?  Let's #discuss. 


  • Amey kollar

    Posted on January 31, 2012

    Unfortunately, it seems as women we will always be drawn to the mirror and pick apart what we don’t like and remember how we liked ourselves better when…What if we start a revolutionary change…when I look into the mirror everyday I will choose one thing I like, smile at myself, and then walk away from the mirror? Could I actually do that? Could you? Could we as women? One day at a time…make this change? To like what we see?

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  • OffOurChests

    Posted on January 31, 2012

    Amey, thanks so much for this. We agree…it often does seem this way…we’re going to run your comment as a post in and of itself. Your questions are great ones and ones we should all think about it. Thanks for adding to the conversation. XO, OOC

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  • Gia

    Posted on January 31, 2012

    I see what I am AND what I’ll never be. I hate mirrors.

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  • Jeannie H

    Posted on June 20, 2012

    I really love this — “it is what it is and you are what you are and I smiled at my reflection.”

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  • SDee

    Posted on June 20, 2012

    How about mirrors in changing rooms at stores?!!! Do they want to sell me anything?!!! I buy almost everything online.

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