I Can’t Quit You

4 comments | May 28th, 2012

(story submitted by SFG, a 24 yo Chestist)

We were in college when we started dating.  I'd had a few boyfriends in HS, but nothing really serious before him.  I think he taught me how to be in love.

Now it's 2 years after we graduated and we're still together, I'm just not sure we should be.  I tried breaking things off once a year ago and it just didn't work.  I think he tried once too but I'm not really sure.

I can't tell if we're supposed to be together or just too scared not to be.  {end story}

You ever been in a relationship, could've been romantic or even professional, where the fear of not being together is what kept you from leaving?


  • Katherine

    Posted on May 29, 2012

    I had one of these relationships. Every time we started to pull away we’d run back together. Even then I knew it wasn’t because we had to be together, but that couldn’t be away from each other. I think for both of us our identities got intertwined in being a part of a couple.

    It wasn’t bad, even at the end. The opportunity cost of staying in something that’s not great is what I think of as too high.

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    • H.B.

      Posted on May 29, 2012

      There are times when you need to fight through a relationship’s inevitable ebbs and flows, and times when you just need to get out. No one can tell you which. Actually, lots of people can and many probably have but only you can decide.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted on May 29, 2012

    I’ve never really thought about my job as being some kind of co-dependence before your question. I’m 100% afraid to leave even though I do not love it any more.

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  • Rejected

    Posted on May 29, 2012

    In college there was a guy I hooked up with for about 3 weeks and then he dumped me. I could not get over him. Every time I saw him at a party we would hook up again. I always felt pathetic and used after, but I could not stay away. Not sure that’s what this post is about, but that’s what I thought about.

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