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I Want To Please Myself

3 comments | July 9th, 2012

(story submitted by So Tired, a 31 yo Chestist)

I'm so fucking tired of worrying about how I look, how I come off, what people will think of me.

When I was younger all I wanted to do was please everyone.  Now I just want to be able to please myself and I don't know how because I'm too wrapped up in what "they" think. {end story}

It can be easy to focus on "them" and what they think when you should be focusing on you.  Tell us, how do you do it?  Any tips?




  • JJ

    Posted on July 9, 2012

    Ok, you have to forget what they think. It hasn’t been working for you so far. Focus on you. Focus on who you feel. Focus on how you want to feel.

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    • Leah

      Posted on July 9, 2012

      JJ’s so right. I’d offer only that you need to keep in mind that your thoughts are more important than theirs. Easy for me to say but what you need to believe and act on.

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  • Eva@fmb

    Posted on July 9, 2012

    WE so get this. It’s pretty hard to stop worrying about what other people think of you. Start by just noticing every time you do it. Just observe the situation and say. “Hmmmmmm…., I’m doing it again.” Look at the pattern, what sets you off, then see if you can replace the self-judgment once in a while. It’s a process. You are taking the first step. Good on you.

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