Love & Sex




I’m Not Good In Bed

6 comments | May 21st, 2012

(story submitted anonymously, by a Chestist)

I don't think I'm very good in bed.  It was hard to say that even in writing.  No one's ever told me that I'm not good and I've been doing this for a while but I just don't think I'm good.  I don't know if it's a lack of imagination or what exactly. 

Everyone else seems to think they're all great lovers.  But how do you know if you really are?  {end story}

Interesting question that.  How do you know if you are or aren't?


  • J.

    Posted on May 22, 2012

    I guess I’ve always thought I was pretty good because it always seems to end well but now I’m really wondering.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted on May 22, 2012

    One word. Technique.

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  • Colleen

    Posted on May 22, 2012

    Does your partner express enjoyment? Do you enjoy it?

    That’s about all you can really go on. Going down the road of “but what if they don’t *really* enjoy it” is a morass of second-guessing and opening the door on guilt you don’t want or need.

    The only goal when having sex is enjoyment for all parties. And again, do you enjoy it? Do they seem to?

    And I’ll say this too: it takes everyone in bed to make an enjoyable experience. So if you’re not enjoying it, it might be because of many things, not all of which have to do with you.

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    • S+A

      Posted on May 22, 2012

      Colleen is right on. Enjoyment for both is what sex is about – regardless of how you both or each define enjoyment.

      If you’re helping them feel good and if they’re helping you feel good, that is what matters. As she said above, it takes everyone in bed to make it work. It is not just on you (no pun intended).

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  • Abby

    Posted on May 22, 2012

    This sounds like Kindergarten, but everyone is different. You need to find what works for you and whoever you are with. My advice, experiment and ask questions.

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