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Losing My Dad

6 comments | April 23rd, 2012

(story submitted by "his girl", a Chestist)

My dad is sick and probably not going to make it much longer at all.  When I think about being in a world without him I get physically ill.  I know it can sound strange to describe your father as your best friend.  My dad is my best-friend though.

Growing up, there was nothing I couldn't say to him, tell him, share with him or ask him.  My mom and I were close (she died 6 years ago) but my father and I have always been so connected.  My husband loves him, and my children love their grandfather so much.  He is such a part of our lives and my life that I feel so lost already.  Who wil I turn to?  Who will I share with?  Who will listen to me and understand me the way he always has?

I know I'll always be his girl.  I just don't want him to leave yet.  I don't think I'll ever be ready. I know I'm not now. {end story}

Ever lose someone you were beyond close with?  How'd you get past it?  Have you been able to?

6 comments

  • Anonymous

    Posted on April 23, 2012

    Sad for you. Cherish what you have left, and then cherish the memories. Take lots of pictures for your kids.

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  • NGL

    Posted on April 23, 2012

    My sister wdied when I was 24 and she was 18, in a car accident. Losing her has changed my life. I don’t know if I’ve ever really recovered, and I am 47 now.

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    • OOC

      Posted on April 23, 2012

      NGL, wow. That’s a lot of your life lived without recovering. Do you think there’s any way to accept it for the horrible tragedy it was and move on? Can’t imagine your sister would want you to be living anything but fully and richly.

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  • Susa

    Posted on April 23, 2012

    My father died two years ago, two weeks after my 40th birthday. I still think about him every day and miss him a lot. He was kind of a substitute father to my husband, who also misses talking to him a lot, his knowledge, and his sense for justice.
    I am glad I was able to tell my father what a wonderful childhood I had, the fun we had, the vacations we went on as a family. We even had some father-daughter-vacations, just the two of us, and had great times.
    You should tell your father what you cherish about the times you had together. Do you know that wonderful song “The Living Years” from Mike & the Mechanics? I often think about the lyrics; we should all tell each other what we feel and appreciate while we still can, while we live.

    My thoughts are with you!

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    • OOC

      Posted on April 23, 2012

      Susa…we’re so sorry for your loss, and yet so glad you joined the conversation here. Thanks for being part of it and sharing your story…xo, OOC

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  • PK

    Posted on April 23, 2012

    Lost my mother-in-law 2 years ago. She was a terrible mom, but a kickass grandmother. Not a day goes by where there isn’t something I want to share with her. I’m just glad we had the time we had. She really got to forge a new relationship with my husband, and our kids changed her life foe the better. Unfortunately the rest of the grandparents are LAME, but we make up for it with close friends. I guess you have to appreciate what you do have.

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