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Not Proud.

5 comments | August 12th, 2012

(by anonymous)

I am constantly berating myself for not doing better things with my free time. Instead of exercising, doing something productive, taking some of the household jobs off of my husband's back, etc, I hang out at the cafe with friends, read books etc. I don't have the willpower to get myself to do what I should. I should get a job and have a boss. It's all the more unacceptable because on the outside I have a completely perfect life- I'm in decent shape (could lose 10 lbs but definitely not fat), 4 kids who are healthy and do well at school (although I'm always on them to do better), a husband who makes a ton of money, a lovely house in the city and a summer house on the beach, enough money to do basically anything I want. And a ph.d in an area I am good at. Why can't I either enjoy myself or get motivated to do something so that I am proud of myself! {end story}


  • Gina

    Posted on August 13, 2012

    You’ve asked the right question but only you can answer it. In my experience in matters like these it’s about fear. Fear of failure fear of success fear of finding out you do or do not like something. Ask yourself the hard questions. You will find your answers and path. Good luck!

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    • Abby Korn

      Posted on August 13, 2012

      I agree with Gina. You not thrilled with where you are and so inaction and stasis just reinforces what you don’t like. You have to ask why you prefer discomfort to change.

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  • NC

    Posted on August 13, 2012

    We can feel like we have it all and nothing at the same time. What matters most?

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  • Daria

    Posted on August 13, 2012

    I’m sorry but saying “I don’t have the willpower to get myself to do what I should” is really weak. If you think you should, do.

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  • Lori Gulden

    Posted on August 16, 2012

    I agree. It can be very helpful to distinguish between excuses and reasons!!

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