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Pleasing Others

4 comments | July 10th, 2012

(by Heather, a Chestist)

I'm tired of worrying about pleasing other people. When does this insane behavior ever end????

At what point will it no longer matter to me, when will I realize that it is impossible to please everybody and just be happy with myself. At the rate I'm going, I'll be dead first. {end story}

Do you put other people's happy before your own?  (What's up with that?)  Any advice for Heather ~ and the rest of us?


  • Anonymous

    Posted on July 11, 2012

    Often, I think we put others before ourselves in the hopes that maybe they’ll reciprocate one day. Personally, I’m still waiting.

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    • RENA

      Posted on July 11, 2012

      Hah. I think your bigger point, that we can put others first because we think it comes back to us is a good one. It may be worth considering when you’re actually putting your pleasure before theirs and doing something for someone else as a way of feeling good yourself. Our actions can be all twisted by our quiet motivations.

      If that fails go on and focus on you.

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  • RS

    Posted on July 11, 2012

    In general, I think women are taught to put others first. There also may be some type of genetic piece that is nurtured. You can’t have a world full of narcissists, can you? There is a balance to be struck. Try to put yourself first some of the time.

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