The Penis Problem

13 comments | August 30th, 2011

(story submitted by  D H Leitner, a Chestist)

D H wrote to us after seeing our announcement about The Self Esteem Act (we think).  Here’s what she had to get off her chest:

After reading the umpteenth story about how hollywood and society “bully’s” women and girls, yet continues to dance around, dodge and avoid the reasons WHY such “bullying” even EXISTS in the first place, I find myself simply wanting to scream as clearly NOBODY is willing or brave enough to deal with the SOURCE of such rampant and esculating destructive behavior!

The answer boils down to ONE thing…(excuse the pun) stroking the male penis!!

From cramming our feet into tortorously devised shoes, to cutting our bodies surgically, to the unrealistic portrayals from hollywood, the male penis dictates our entire society and it is supported fully by it’s counterpart testosterone!

From the billions wasted on “sports” while our own people are starving, the mega billions wasted on the monstrous industry of war, to the very destruction of our planet from over population, until we recognize, ACCEPT and DEAL with the animalistic nature of man himself, we and any hope of a truly civilized society will always be doomed to failure. [end of story.]

DH has a very strong point-of-view.  What do you think, are we doomed?  Is it all about the penis, and if it is, what’s that suggest about our future?  Oh, and remember, have any opinion you want – but do not disparage or judge D H’s.  Disagree sure – but no judgment…OOC House Rules.  Ok, discuss.


  • Jamie

    Posted on August 30, 2011

    O.K. I don’t really know where to begin, though I feel a bit compelled to try. Oh, never mind, this is too frustrating.

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  • Gemma

    Posted on August 30, 2011

    Way not to take any responsibility for anything at all.

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  • Not Her

    Posted on August 30, 2011

    I do think biology has a lot do who and where we are. That’s part of what biology does to ensure that we keep having children.

    Inside this rant are some valid points about male hegemony, women’s participation in perpetuating it, and the basic nature of humans.

    While less than ideal, our society is as civilized as any has ever been. Men are also probably doing as good a job controlling their testosterone as has ever been, some high profile cases to the contrary.

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  • T.L.

    Posted on August 30, 2011

    D.H. if this is the problem, what’s the answer?

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  • Nella

    Posted on August 30, 2011

    Throughout history, men have ruined marriages, countries, careers, kingdoms, families, friendships etcetera because they were thinking with their little soldier.

    I think DH is right.

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    • OOC

      Posted on August 30, 2011

      Sadly, there certainly is ample evidence of what you speak, Nella. So let’s ask you…If DH is right, what’s the answer? Let us know what you think, and thanks for moving the conversation along.

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  • Dora

    Posted on August 30, 2011

    I think DH is right on. The answer: women need to take control. Period. End of story.

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  • L. M.

    Posted on September 4, 2011

    Everything I’ve done… I call myself a feminist, but every day, I look in the mirror and want to break it. I’ve been called beautiful by my mom and her friends, but I have never been seen as sexy. Short, scrawny (size 00 isn’t all it’s cracked up to be), small-chested, and brunette with matching dirt-colored eyes. I asked my best guy friend why nobody ever saw me as anything more than a friend. his response? “You just aren’t… you don’t give off that vibe. Like, you have no sexuality.”

    I was floored.

    I’ve spent the past 2 years trying to be more than a friend. It’s been my main goal. It hurts talking with guys about dental implants and have them all assume that I’m talking about getting a boob job. It’s hard watching my one boyfriend grow bored with me and toss me out like a piece of trash. It’s hard having those guys I do have chemistry with say, “I don’t want to ruin our friendship,” and then watch as they start a relationship with their other best female friend who’s blue-eyed, pale, dark haired, and has more curves than an Al Hirchfeld drawing. Why was he willing to risk her friendship and not mine? Somehow, I doubt it’s because my friendship is honestly more important to him.

    And then this made me realize, all I think about is him. Him and my ex. What would he think of me in this dress? Should I get implants? Maybe I should go blonde? What would he say if he saw me here?

    This past year has absolutely destroyed me. My GPA went from a 3.6 to a 3.14. I allowed those assholes to control my life and determine everything I do. Well, no more. On Wednesday I meet my new therapist. Hopefully she’ll be able to help me learn to like myself again.

    I’m not moving fast, but every day, I try to take a step forward. Sometimes I end up taking 2 backward, but I’m going to keep trying. Like Eleanor Roosevelt said, no one can make me feel inferior without my consent.

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