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comment | November 7th, 2012

(by FMB)

When we started Feel More Better, we called it Off Our Chests. It was quite purposefully not Off My Chest. The “Our”, the “S”, the plural were – and are – so important.

We began this with the firm and wholehearted belief that we are all in this together. That making the world a happyer place for EllaRose and other girls would, as Hillary said long ago, take a village.

We are that village, all of us and each of us. And as our personal elation here at FMB HQ at the President’s re-election goes from euphoria to warm and fuzzy, as we consider the wins for women, for equality, for choice, for common sense, for Big Bird…we can’t help but still be saddened by the clear and obvious divides amongst this imperfect union of ours.

We can’t help but wonder how the Akins and Murdouck’s made it this far. We can’t help but wonder not at what differentiates us, we’re all human after all, but at what keeps hate alive along with hope. We’re made sadder still by the morning after name calling and wall building of those whose candidate(s) didn’t win last night. We are made wary of all the conversation about the necessity for coalition building by and between sides that seem reluctant to build the coalitions we need.

There’s more than a fine line between having an ideology and being an ideologue. There’s more than a fine line between being righteous and self-righteous. There’s more than a fine line between disagreeing and dividing.

It’s hard not to get trite and cliché when talking this way.  It’s hard not to sound like a version of one of those bad posters in airports of a bunch of skydivers with “Teamwork” or “Together” written below them.  But here’s a fact. We’re all motivated by self-interest. Here’s a belief. In this construct,there are 2 types of people…one, those of us who think our self-interest is best served by an orientation to “me” and two, those of us who think our self-interest is best served by an orientation to “we”.

We believe we are all in this together, and we believe we need to start acting that way.  We’ve got shit to do and miles to go.  We’re not saying we ought to put aside our differences…that’s what makes us us, but we must overcome them on behalf of “we”. This, this would make us feel more better.

Do you think we can?

 

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