Prescribing Pleasure
4 comments | January 6th, 2011
(submitted by OOC: 1:6:11 via Jezebel)
"Is a drug going to help them? Maybe if it has a map of the clitoris on the box."
- Carol Queen, PhD Orgasm, Inc
While we may not be able to stop the pharmaceutical companies from 'marketing discontent,' we can address the inhibitions and fears that may be causing 'sexual dysfunction.' Would you be interested in female viagra? if so, why? Tell us about your quest for the elusive 'o.'
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cee dee
Posted on January 6, 2011
okay, our body is about the ONLY place we as women still have total and complete control. we decide if we are going to have an abortion or bring a life into this world. we can nourish a child with our breast milk or not. we can also manipulate our clitoris into some kind orgasm – be it big or small. to hand over this last bit of sexual power to a man is just about as depressing as not ever having felt the magic of an orgasm.
honestly, i didn’t have an orgasm (with a man) until i was 41. i have been having sex since i was 19. the ONLY reason i had THAT orgasm was me masterbating during sex with my partner. I can only count 1 time that i have had an orgasm without the aid of my fingers doing the walking.
for me, i know my lack of orgasm (with a man) was a direct link to my insecurities and embarrassment of needing to let go of all inhibitions in order to achieve said orgasm. i felt that the pleasuring part of sex made me slutty or made me seem too advanced and men wanted to feel as if i was coming to their bed for the first time. therefore, i’d act accordingly and be timid. oh, i can fake an orgasm like nobody’s business but the work that it takes to actually get me there is on a porn star level and that is just not lady-like; at least it wasn’t back then. since the first and ever after, i have taken control of my body and have no problem showing my wares and ability to reach that great o in the sky with or without “his” involvement.
all that back story is to say, i think the drug industry is taking advantage of insecure, timid women who for whatever reasons – psychological and/or emotional – are not able to let go and reach their orgasm. and i put the emphasis on their. i reached mine when i was ready. when i was with a man i felt at ease with. i felt beautiful and safe and secure and knew i could do what i pleased. (pun intended). yes, there may also be some physical reasons why some women can not achieve the o but it’s still, in my mind a matter of find the right angle or position or finger(s) that will get you there. the more work you put in the more advanced you seem and become and therein lies the catch 22. too timid to do what it takes and so the, “i must not be able to have an orgasm organically” syndrome sets in.
a drug is not going to help you reach the pinnacle. a wire in your back is just medieval. come on ladies, a wire in your back? does that not smell of puppetry? cut the strings (wires) and take control of your body. do it for you.
to paraphrase en vogue from the early 90s, “Free your mind and your [clit] will follow”.
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OOC
Posted on January 6, 2011
Welcome back, Cee Dee, we love hearing from you. You’re getting your happy on and we say “bravo and well done!” Seriously.
And, we’d love to post your comment as a story. Let us know how you’d feel about that. Thanks again for adding your voice, it’s one with a lot to share. XO, OOC
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cee dee
Posted on January 7, 2011
do post away…
muah!
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OOC
Posted on January 7, 2011
Thanks, cee dee. we did indeed. check it out on the home page. Your pals @OOC.
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