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When Family Goes Missing

7 comments | April 25th, 2012

(submitted anonymously, by a 39yo Chestist)

Is your family together?  Here's her story:

I have two daughters…1 is three years old and one is seven months…how do I empower myself to get family back together and strengthen ties for these precious beings with their uncle, aunt and most importantly…their cousins. Daughters, girls, women, mothers, sister in laws cannot sit back anymore and allow possible family connections and memories to disappear. Suggestions PLEASE.  {end story}
 

Thanksgiving tensions aside, our extended familes can be an important part of giving our kids – to say nothing of ourselves – a sense of the past that helps contextualize the present.  How close is your exnteded family?  Does it feel more like obligation, habit, or joy?  Any advice for our writer?  Remember, you can help change her story if you share yours.

7 comments

  • Hailey Hawthorne

    Posted on April 25, 2012

    Family is the most important thing in the world to me. To me, however, family is not about blood and DNA, it’s about shared love and values.

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  • J

    Posted on April 25, 2012

    You already ARE EMPOWERED to do that. If it’s important to you — DO IT. There’s nothing you need to wait for.

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    • I Agree.

      Posted on April 25, 2012

      I agree. This is said with caring — what are you waiting for and what do you need from someone else? Go on and get to it if they are important to you.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted on April 25, 2012

    My mother died a few years ago, and my father hasn’t been in the picture for a long time. When she died, my brother and I weren’t exactly close but we honored those ceremonial occasions like birthdays and holidays.

    Without boring you all with the dirty details, IMO, his behavior after our mother died was awful and I have not spoken with him since. I’ve got 2 children and so does he and because of distance they’ve never really known each other. Now, I’m pretty sure they never will.

    I get a little upset about it sometimes but guess I do not consier the loss of someone who would act as he did to be a real loss in my life or my children’s.

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    • Tricia

      Posted on April 25, 2012

      My family was like this. My dad had two older sisters who didn’t talk to each other, and this was despite the fact that their husbands worked together everyday for 40 years! My father did not talk to his father and my mother went through periods where she didn’t talk to her parents.

      Some families are just all messed up.

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    • Anonymous

      Posted on May 9, 2012

      This hits home. In my original post I was wondering how to be brave enough to accept being empowered to encourage my family to love and share our children’s joys. Sadly this post reminds me of how out of my hands my children’s relationship with their cousins remains.

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  • Tracey

    Posted on April 25, 2012

    My cousins are such an important part of my life. When I have kids, I hope they’ll be as close with theirs as I am with mine. T

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