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Where’s the Outrage?

10 comments | September 24th, 2012

(by FMB)

We'll admit we don't get why and where popular media chooses to focus its – and our – attention, sometimes. 

Sometimes we're outraged by the abscence of outrage in our society.  Let's all talk about Lady Gaga's weight, Amy Poehler's divorce, or Amanda Bynes' troubles , but not these #s, and the massive, epidemic crisis of confidence affecting girls.  The status quo just isn't acceptable anymore.

7 out of 10 girls 8-17 believe they aren't good enough or don't measure up in some way (We're wondering good enough for what and measure up to what or whom?)

62% of all girls feel insecure about themselves (this is a massive crisis of confidence that does and will have serious ripple effects)

57% have a mother who criticizes her own looks (hey mom, think what you will – but stop hating on yourself in front of the kids)

What do you think?  Surprised by any?  What can we do to put the focus where it needs to be (and not on Ryan's abs), and why aren't we talking about this more?.

 

 

 

( data from Real Girls Real Pressure, a National Report on the State of Self-Esteem, commissioned by the Dove Self-Esteem Fund)

10 comments

  • Hilary

    Posted on August 17, 2011

    Honestly, I had no idea. This is terrible.

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    • OOC

      Posted on August 17, 2011

      Hey, Hilar. That’s part of what disturbs us so much here @OOC…we didn’t know about these numbers either until we began OOC. Our question…how can we all not know? HOw are we as a society not totally freaking out about what’s happening to our girls (and women)?

      Of course, now that we do know, the question is what c an we and will we do? XO

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  • OMG

    Posted on August 17, 2011

    I’m like Hilary. Who knew. 70% of girls feel like they’re not good enough – how do you raise a child in this world?

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  • Anonymous

    Posted on August 17, 2011

    This makes me feel sick

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  • Petra

    Posted on August 17, 2011

    I think the statistic about the mother who is criitcal of her own looks is so telling. Children learn so many of their attitudes and behaviors at home. I know I did — for better and worse.

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    • Maya L.

      Posted on August 17, 2011

      My mother was so beautiful in my eyes and yet the furthest thing from beautiful in her own. She would spend what seemed like hours in front of a mirror criticizing her own looks and body shape. It was very hard for me to escape the pressures she put on herself.

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      • OOC

        Posted on August 17, 2011

        As a friend said to us once, Maya, she learned self-loathing from the best place, her mom.

        You know our POV here, we’re all responsible, accountable and culpable. Parents more than any…but it’s hard to parent your children and teach them what matters (as we see it, anyway) in a world that keeps throwing images, standards and ideals at your kids. Guess that’s why it’s the hardest job you’ll ever love. XO

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  • Anna H C

    Posted on August 24, 2011

    How do u find your self esteem??? When i read this i began thinking about the % it was scary…so i gotta know im 15 and i need to know if im in this % hopefully not…

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    • OOC

      Posted on August 24, 2011

      Anna, Self-Esteem is all about knowing that you matter, that you are valuable and valued. It’s about being comfortable with who you are and can become, and having the confidence to know that what you think of yourself matters a lot even if someone else tells you otherwise.

      To find your self-esteem, just be, just look inside you and feel what you feel, and you’ll know. And if you find yourself amongst all the other women and girls who have low self esteem (to say nothing of all the other boys and men)…you’ll have found you’ve got good company and something to work on – something that will make you stronger, more confident and happier.

      Finding out where we need improvement and work is a really good thing…because then we can work on it and improve. Don’t worry – just be the best you you can be. XO, OOC

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