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Worst Day Ever.

5 comments | April 5th, 2012

(story by Nicole, a Chestist)

A few days ago we tweeted a question, asking what was the worst day you'd ever had.  Here's Nicole's story – about her 2 worst days ever.

My "worst" day got replaced with one even worse – it happened almost 2 years ago and shattered my reality.

At the time i was 38, the mother of two young children & married.  my parents' marriage was something i had always looked up to as the ultimate union – they were going to be celebrating their 40th year of marriage in the fall of 2010.  So when my father called me in May of that year to announce he was leaving my mom —- i was not only shocked, but also very, very sad.  Not just for them, but for myself as well – my idealized version of their marriage was shattered.  i cried, my dad cried and then when my mom got on the phone, she just sounded numb.  She was as shocked as i was, as we all were.  My brother and his wife were completely caught off guard, as were all of my parents friends.  It was like a death, in a way.

So that was the worst day, until 2 months later when, with my mother visiting, we found out that my dad had been having an affair, finding out about his affair – on facebook – oh yeah, that's what i said – facebook. He had de-friended my mom on facebook – but i happened to be on fb and mentioned to my mom that he had changed him profile picture.  She came over, looked at the screen, and on his wall was this back and forth flirting with a woman whose name my mother IMMEDIATELY recognized as his old high school girlfriend.  She started doing some detective work (never underestimate the ability of a woman to get to the bottom of it!) and found all kinds of incriminating evidence of the affair on his email account, which she still had access to.  It was so awful to see my mom right at the moment when she came to the realization that my dad had been cheating on her.  It was devastating.

The worst day that got one upped. {end story}

Have you ever caught your parent(s) in a lie?  Do you look at the relationship between your parents as one to replicate – or maybe run from? 
 

5 comments

  • Sabrina

    Posted on April 5, 2012

    That is horrible. I would have popped.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted on April 5, 2012

    My mother had an affair with a co-worker when I was 11 and she and my father had been married for 16 years. They got through it and are still together but I remember when my father moved out of the house for a while. I thought it was so unfair that she cheated but that he had to move out. It was so hurtful and embarrassing for him. We’re not a family that talks a lot about our emotions I imagine this must still hurt him though.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted on April 5, 2012

    I never caught my father lying. I’m pretty sure he’s always had affairs though. When I was little I used to try and listen to his calls to see if I could catch him. I never did but I have never trusted him either.

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  • Liz

    Posted on April 5, 2012

    My parents have been married for 52 years. They haven’t lived in the same house for 33 of those, and he’s been living with his girlfriend for 17 years. When I was 20, my brothers and I heard from our aunt that my father had been married before my mom. Neither of them has EVER said anything about it. How weird is that? They still eat lunch together most days and my mom will still sign cards at the holidays from the both of them. But despite the fact that they never got divorced they haven’t been married except in name, in so long.

    I run from their relationship model like a cat being chased by a dog. Never.

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  • TBE

    Posted on April 5, 2012

    My parents always talked about how great their relationship was, but in reality they drove each other crazy. My mother always complained to me about my dad. I hated that. It was really inappropriate and she didn’t stop even when I repeatedly asked her to. I hope I never do that to my kids!

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