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You Screwed Me Over

13 comments | May 4th, 2011

(submitted by Kaitlin)

"you were my best friend. i told you everything and i did anything for you. i completely trusted you, and i trusted you not to talk behind my back,trusted you to not tell my secrets,not to lie to our mutual friends about my life. i trusted you because we were best friends,

i never said one damn bad word about you,but you screwed me over. friends improve our life,but you only showed me how evil and cruel some people are. thanks to you i am paranoid and worried that people will take what i say,and spin it. i see the world differently, and now my view is tainted.  you fucked my perception and now i trust no one, all because you wanted to be seen in a better light. i will keep being polite to you,but i learned from my mistake, you wont ever take fucking advantage of me ever again." Have you experienced this kind of toxic friendship? Did you try to work it out or did you cut the person off?

 

 

 

13 comments

  • Get It

    Posted on May 4, 2011

    I’m so sorry you have had to go through this. I did too. And it hurts in ways that surprise even yourself.

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  • Vi

    Posted on May 4, 2011

    There aren’t words that make this experience easier, but time makes it better. Because with time you heal and with time you realize you are better off without this person, and that knowing that sooner is always better than knowing it later.

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  • My2Cents

    Posted on May 4, 2011

    Please don’t trust no one just because you shouldn’t trust someone. That just makes the hurt of what they did last longer.

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  • Hallie

    Posted on May 4, 2011

    My “best” friend violated my trust irrevocably. I kept finding myself wondering what I did to deserve it, as if somehow it was my fault she sucks. It wasn’t my fault. It was hers. It took me a while to get to that point, and to feel okay being vulnerable, but I did and I do. So will you, I promise.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted on May 4, 2011

    im the toxic friend. im the one people cut off. i don’t mean to do it.

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  • Lauren

    Posted on May 4, 2011

    I cut my best friend off, too. And I cry every day. When you hear something juicy, do you pick up the phone and go to call them and then realize you can’t? That’s the worst. Being alone. But it’s better to be hurt than to live with a knife in your back. If they made your life better by being your friend, fight for them. But if they cause you more pain than good, walk away and don’t (DON’T) look back.

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    • OOC

      Posted on May 4, 2011

      You’re brave and strong. Someone once told us that if the decision is hard, it’s probably right. We’re not sure we believe that all the time…but seems like it fits here.

      Tis better to be hurt and move on than live with a knife in your back, for sure. That’s not friendship. That just sucks. Thanks for adding your voice. OOC

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  • blackbird

    Posted on May 4, 2011

    this is so hard to read. so hard to hear. like my2cents says, please try to not lose trust in all people because of one person’s (albeit your best friend’s) harsh betrayal. what you must realize is you are the positive energy that she fed off of to balance her negative energy. you tell her that you never talked about her behind her back which leads me to believe she was NOT perfect and surely could have used or even deserved a dose of her own medicine. but you are better than her. you are mindful of the code of friendship. one tenant could be: “though my friend is a bitch, as long as she isn’t hurting anyone i can overlook her mean girl tendencies.”

    well, guess what? she was hurting someone and that someone was you. you matter.

    in the end. you win. she loses ’cause she lost you.

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  • Eva@OOC

    Posted on May 4, 2011

    We have all made this mistake. Either we have misjudged someone or we just weren’t ready to make a stand and walk away. It feels awful when someone you love betrays you, but there are people out there that fit us. Keep looking, you will find her/them! You can tell by seeing how many of us can relate.

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  • Gr4vI

    Posted on May 5, 2011

    this seems like something Im going through right now…people can be so disheartening at times. As of now I had just totally cut this person out of my life but I may reconcile things with said person I just have to figure out…is it really worth it.

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  • Anonymous

    Posted on March 8, 2016

    Hope your doing better i just got fucked over by my best friend two weeks ago and it sucks I was willing todo anything for her and for I awhile it was great but her boyfriend who’s a cheating pothead kept getting mad at me. Everyday she’d vent about him but ten minutes later she was happily in love with home. I guess it got to the point where she wasn’t interested so she told everyone that I cut and hat ive tried to kill myself and other embarrassing things. My advice tell them to fuck off I’m not the most well liked kid in the school but I have friends and I trust them more than my her. Just make sure you don’t trust to much cause they can fuck u over ass well.

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